How to Turn Your Life Around

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Today, we're going to be talking about how to turn your life around no matter where you are

in your life.

And more importantly, besides just turning your life around, we're going to talk about where

you're actually going in your life.

Because all too often, I find that people, they don't really have a plan, they don't know

where they're going and then also on top of that, they don't know how they're going

to get there.

So we're going to talk about how to turn your life from, we're going to talk about how to figure

out where it is that you want to go and then we're going to figure out exactly how to

get there and come up with a plan.

And before we do that, there is something that I have to say.

We live in a world where everything happens right away, everything.

And it's pretty amazing how fast everything happens.

Like, if you think of Google, if you want to figure out something, you can literally

Google it.

And then a few minutes, you've got an answer as to, you know, if you're like, hey, how far

is the Earth from the Sun, and you can Google it, 93 million miles, you know, immediately

how far it is.

You know, if you have Amazon earlier today, I was looking and I was like, oh, man, I'm running

out of coffee.

I was like, you know what I could do, I could go on Amazon and, oh, I can get to deliver

between 10 o clock and 3 o clock today.

Literally, it can be delivered on the exact same day.

You know, you have Uber eats, food can get delivered to you.

You have Uber, someone can literally pick you up and drive you anywhere that you want.

You have, you know, grocery delivery, where it's like, I haven't

been in a grocery store in like two years at this point, it feels like, and so we live

in this world where almost everything is immediate gratification.

And you have to realize that that's what technology has brought us, but for the majority

things that are important in your life, whether that's your family, whether that's your

relationships, whether that's your success or your business.

All of those things are never going to be immediate.

All of those things are going to take time, like, if you think about it, if it was

a 200 years ago, and you want it some strawberries.

Well, first off, you'd have to be, you know, you'd have to have some strawberries seeds.

It would have to be the right time of year.

You would have to plant the seeds at the right time of year.

You'd have to water them.

You'd have to take care of them.

And then it would take a couple of months for you to literally get those strawberries.

We're literally a few months ago, you had an idea and now you're finally going to be

able to, you know, get the fruits of your labor.

And hopefully during that time, and other animals doesn't come in, eat them when they're

ripe.

And so that's how a lot of things used to be before technology brought everything to

us so immediate.

Now, you know, I get sit on my couch, decide that I want some strawberries.

I can go on my phone.

I don't ever have to leave my couch, order in within a couple hours, some dude named Travis

that's, you know, a student at a local university delivers them to my front door.

You know, the only thing that he really doesn't do is put him into my mouth and feed

them to me.

So you can probably buy that service, probably available or going to be available soon enough

for someone can feed you your food if you want to.

So the things are so immediate now that we're trained to want instant gratification because

everything is so immediate.

But you have to rest.

The most important things in life are not immediate.

The most important things in life take time.

And so you've got to almost, in a sense, reprogram yourself from knowing most things are

immediate but knowing that the body that you want, the family that you want, the relationship

that you want, the success that you want, the bank account that you want, all of those

things are all going to take time because we've been indoctrinated to believe that everything

happens right away.

We've been indoctrinated to think that everything is immediate gratification.

So what does this have to do with today and what's going on in all of our lives and what's

happening in your life?

Well, most things are going to take time to work and take time to work through.

And we've got at least some things that still take time.

We don't try to hurry up like ladies, imagine if you're married to a man and you're pregnant.

It would be really weird for him to walk up to it in month three and be like, hey, stay

see.

I know this whole thing is supposed to take like eight and a half, nine months, but I was

really thinking about how cool it would be if we could just get this done in like five

or six.

Do you think you could try to hurry up this process?

Imagine not being the case, you'd be like, this guy is probably insane that you've never

expect that somehow a woman could give birth four or five months early and speed up the

process of birthing a child, right?

Some things just take time.

Your success takes time.

You're learning.

You're growing everything.

Your personal development.

All of those things take time.

I'm going to talk about all of those things taking time and I'm also going to talk about the

direction that you're going in is more important than the speed that you're going.

And so living in a world where everything's so immediate and we're so used to getting it

now, getting it now, getting it now.

It's very important to number one, understand that just things take time and number two,

more than anything else.

Instead of worrying so much about how much time it takes, worrying more about the direction

that you're going and to make sure that you're going in the right direction.

This is as long as you're going in the right direction, eventually you will get to where

you want to go.

And that's the important thing that you need to realize.

And I've been saying this, I said this for the past few months on a couple different episodes.

But when I used to see someone I was younger when I was like 23 years old, I'd see someone

that was very successful.

I'd be like, oh my god, why am I not as successful as them yet?

Why don't I have as much money as them yet?

And now that I've gotten older, I'm 35, I look at those same people that are, you know, have

success and I look at them and I'm like, oh, he's like 55 years old, he's 20 years, he's

got 20 years more into this than I do.

Of course, he's further along than I am because he's just simply older, he's been on

this road longer.

If we're just following the path and we're taking slow steps in the direction that we

want, eventually we're going to get to where we want to go.

And so what I really want you to be aware of is the time and being aware that things

take time and that's okay, but more than anything else, being aware that what you really

need to make sure that you're doing is that you're just heading in the right direction.

Because so many people get a business idea and they start working on that business and

they're so excited about it and then they give up because three months in they're not

doing a million dollars yet.

And that's not how most businesses work.

You know, you read articles and forves where it's like, oh, this guy had an idea and

then he was a multi billion or six months later, when you're already businesses, that's

not how it works.

You know, it doesn't normally blow up like that.

You know, a lot of people are like, I've got this business idea, they roll with it, they're

passionate about it and then they give up with them a month, two months, three months,

six months simply because they're not quote unquote where they want to be yet.

And they think they should be further along.

For my business, it took three years for us to hit a million dollars.

What if I'd given up six months into it because I was like, oh, I must have made a mistake.

I must be on the wrong path.

This must not have been the thing that was made made for me and not realizing that all

along the way, the three years was me figuring out what works, me figuring out what doesn't

work.

And then not doing the things, they weren't working anymore and continue doing the things

that we're working.

It's like, you know, Tony Robbins says people over estimate what they can do in a year,

but they underestimate what they can do in a decade.

Right.

So when I look back, I'm like, oh my God, the older that I get and the more time I put

into every single thing that I do, I'm, you know, year seven in this podcast.

And so people look and they're like, oh, I wish that I had a top 100 podcast in the world.

It's like, well, I'm also almost 1,200 episodes in and I'm seven years into this thing.

So it's like, oh my God, the longer that time goes on and the more time goes on, I'm

like, that phrase could not be any more true.

People over estimate they can do in a year, but they underestimate they can do it in

decade.

Why?

Because they think that it's going to happen right away.

But if you just go into the oppression of, hey, this is going to take time.

I don't know how long it's going to take, but as long as I'm just heading in the right

direction, I'm going to get to where I want to go eventually, you will be successful, right?

Now that I'm seven years into that business, I finally get that phrase.

I finally see it and understand it.

And a lot of times when you're doing something, you don't see success right away.

Now, if I take six months, might take a year, might take a couple of years.

You know, there's, but you just have to realize that some things take time.

Sometimes it takes six months, sometimes it takes a year or two years, five years, ten

years. Like, if you look at Andy for Salas, a good idea, he runs a hundred million dollar

company now.

It's got hundreds of employees and a lot of people are like, oh my God, I wish I had as much

money as a Moisha had as much success as a Moisha had, the car collection that he had.

I wish I have the house that he has, but most people don't realize that he's slept

in his warehouse and barely made any money for two years of starting that business.

Most people don't want to go through that process.

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So the real question comes down to how bad do you actually want it?

You have to realize it's going to take time.

All of these things are going to take time.

Growing up is going to take time.

Growing up, baby is going to take time.

Growing the failure you want is going to take time.

Growing the relationship that's really going to be the one that you want to set in.

So it's going to take time.

But how bad do you actually want it?

Because slow and steady wins the race.

We've been hearing this since we were children with the tortoise in the hair, but slow

and steady wins the race.

You will win as long as you just don't give up.

The only time that you have failed, quote unquote failed, is when you give up.

When you fuck up, that's not a failure.

That's just bucking up.

We're going to do that.

Many, many, many, many times.

All you have to realize is that you just can't stop.

You figure out where you want to go and you decide, you know what, I don't care how long

it takes.

I'm going to get there in a matter of what.

I'm going to get there.

It might be, in a year it might be five years it might be ten years.

Eventually I'm going to get there, but as long as I just go on this path, slow and steady

wins the race.

So, we talked about time, we talked about the speed that you're going yet.

Now let's talk about where you're going.

And this is important because a lot of people, they don't really know where they're going.

They're just kind of building a life and they're kind of building a life and it's like putting

together a, you know, you sit there and you're like hammering together some wood and some nails

and some wood and some nails.

You're like, okay, yeah, I'm making a ladder and I'm going up this wall.

And then ten years down the road, you realize you're building a ladder on the wrong wall.

It's not the wall that you wanted to.

So you have to realize that if you're going in the right direction, you just don't stop

you eventually get there.

Well, so where is it that you want to be going?

Do you know what you want to get from your life?

Like, do you know what you want and all aspects of your life?

Do you know what you want your life to be?

Like, what's your goals for the next five years?

Like in five, if you were to fast forward and I would say, okay, we got a time machine.

We're going to go.

We're going to fast forward five years from today.

What do you want that perfect life to look like?

What do you want that life to look like when you fast forward?

What if I said, we could go ahead and we could fast forward ten years?

What do you want that perfect life to look like?

Where do you want to be in those ten years?

And so sit down, what the pen and paper you start to figure it out if you are sitting

down with the pen and paper right now, you could pause me if you want to.

Sit down and write your answer question, what do I want?

In five years, what do I want my life to be?

In ten years, what do I want my life to be?

Right?

How do I want people to talk about me and my funeral?

How much of an impact do I want to make on the world?

How much money do I want to make?

Where do I want to live?

Who do I want to marry?

How many kids do I want?

Do I want kids at all?

What about my family?

Do I want to build a family?

Do I want my family?

What are my relationships and my mother and my father and brother and sister?

Everyone to look like.

And you get really clear on where you're going because we talked about time.

But if you're just slowly walking in a direction, you will eventually get somewhere but

is it the where that you want to get?

So it's like, for me, if I just walk, I'm in Austin, Texas, if I were just to go, okay,

you know what?

I'm going to take out a compass and I'm just going to start walking north.

Eventually, I'm going to get to Dallas because Dallas is north of Austin, eventually

I'm going to end up there.

But if I were to just walk outside of my house and say, okay, now I'm just going to walk,

well, there's a chance I get an up in Dallas, there's a chance I get an up in San Antonio,

there's a chance I get an end up in El Paso and Houston, I get an up in all areas.

So you have to know where you're going and this is one place where I see so many people

hung up and say, don't know exactly what it is that they want.

So you have to figure it out, get a pen and paper out, write all the things out, what are

my family, my kids?

Who do I want to marry, what are I going to live, how much money do I want to make, you know,

who do I want to be, what do I want to create?

Okay, so now that we know what it is that you want, we've got the time idea, it's going

to take time.

We just got to let that pass, time's going to pass either way, I should be heading

in the right direction.

So where is it that I want to be going?

All right, now what do we need to do?

We need to come up with a plan.

You have to have a plan as to how you're going to get there.

And this is, I always love his example because it makes so much sense for people whenever

I explain it.

Let's say you and I are in Miami.

We're going to go over the Bahamas.

A lot of people don't know.

You can drive a boat from Bahamas, from Miami over to the Bahamas and we wake up and it's

a beautiful morning, we walk over and we go up to the captain and we're like, hey, captain,

what's the plan?

He's like, oh, we're going to go over the Bahamas.

Okay, cool, what is that going to look like?

He's like, well, we're going to basically head over and

kind of in that direction and you're like, okay, how long is he going to take?

He's like, oh, probably, probably about two and a half to four hours.

Ish, you know?

And okay, cool, what's the, what's the, what's the seasonal like?

He's like, oh, man, you know what I didn't check it today.

I'm not really even sure how to check it.

If you got onto a boat and the captain said this to you, you would get off of that boat.

Why?

Because you want to get onto a boat where you get on there and you say captain, what's the plan?

He says, okay, we're going to go ahead.

We're going to head west.

It's going to be about 97 minutes.

The seasonal, like, they're pretty good.

You guys can crack up at some beers.

It should be sunny.

It should be pretty good way, you know, waves should be too crazy.

We'll be there.

Let's see.

We'll be there about 130.

That's who you want to get onto the boat with.

You want to captain and knows where they're going.

Now that's funny because you're like, oh, yeah, just that direction.

But how many people listening to me right now?

That's how you be living your life.

We're like, I'm going in a, that direction and you don't even know where the fuck you're going.

Right?

But how many are people living their lives out?

I just like, you know, living their life as this is just a ship that's just floating around

it's sea.

No direction.

We'll go with the wind.

We'll go with the tides and we'll just open our eyes one day and we'll see where we are.

You have to rise at some point in time that you've been on a boat that's just going somewhere

but nobody's in control of that boat and you've had the opportunity to step up and

hop into the driver seat the entire time.

You just haven't been doing it.

So where is it that you want to go?

It's time for you to step into the driver seat and actually figure it out.

Where do you want to go?

And what is the plan of exactly how you're going to get there?

You have to have a plan.

You have to know where you're going and you have to have a plan of exactly what you're

going to do.

And then, you know, after this, you're going to start to have weekly and monthly check

ends with yourself.

And if you can, daily check ends with yourself to see how you're progressing towards

the direction that you want to go.

You have to see where you're progressing to get to where it is that you want to be.

And you have to realize this, this is this is a super important thing.

As you're growing your business, as you're growing your life, as you're growing your family,

as you're growing everything that you do, you're going to mess up.

You're going to have times that are really hard.

You're going to have times where you think of quitting.

You're going to have time where you think to yourself, maybe this isn't what I'm supposed

to be doing.

It's okay, just keep going because as long as you just keep heading in that direction.

It's like if I were to go, I'm going to walk to Dallas, maybe it's going to rain on

the way.

Maybe it's going to be, you know, real crappy weather.

But eventually, if I keep walking, I'm going to get there.

And so you have to realize there's going to be some good weather.

It's going to be some bad weather.

You will mess up.

Things are going to happen.

But as long as you just keep going, events are going to get there.

It's not about being perfect.

It's about getting more tally marks in the wind category than the lost category.

You know, if you're saying, you know what, one of the things I need to do, part of my

plans, I need to wake up early.

You're not going to wake up early every single day.

There's going to be days where you sleep in.

There's going to be days where you screw up.

There's going to be days where you forget to set your alarm.

That's OK.

You don't beat yourself up.

You say, OK, noted, I made a mistake.

Now, this is how I'm going to prove you make sure that I don't do it next time.

So what you need is you need to figure out the time.

You need to figure out exactly, you know, where it is that you're going.

And you're also need to figure out the plan that you need to get there.

But most importantly, you need to remember this, the direction that you're heading is

way, way, way more important than the speed that you're heading at.

So that's what I got for you for today's episode.

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