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4 Ways to Become Who You Want to Be
The Mindset Mentor
The Mindset Mentor™ podcast is designed for anyone desiring motivation, direction, and focus in life. Host Rob Dial has amassed a passionate following of over 3 million social media followers, including business professionals, entrepreneurs, and small business owners with his expertise and passion for helping motivate people to become the best version of themselves.
In this podcast, Rob blends neurology, neurobiology, psychology, early childhood development, cognitive behavioral therapy so that you can understand the way your brain and body work together, because when you understand yourself, it makes it much easier to make a plan to change and succeed. When you master your mindset, you master your life.
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Welcome to today's episode of the mindset Mentor podcast. I mean, who's Rothschild. If you have not yet done so. Hit that subscribe button that you never miss another episode. And if you're out there and you love this podcast, please do me a favor, go into iTunes are going to Apple podcast for go to Spotify right now and give us a rating and review. The more positive rating reviews that we get, the more they naturally organically show this to other people who have not listened to before and allows us to be able to grow. So if you would do that for me, I would greatly greatly appreciate it today, I'm going to be talking about four steps to find yourself who you are and become who you want to become it. We're going to go over four different steps that you can find this gift from a guy named Friedrich Nietzsche and anytime, I teach his people, people love this and they start to understand a lot more about themselves. And so, without further Ado, let's just jump straight into it. Let's not dilly-dally around, let's just do it. The first one.
First step to really, truly find yourself. Becoming you want to become is to not follow the herd mentality, not follow the herd mentality. And what are the cost of Friedrich Nietzsche's does is what we've been what we've called Universal values. What we've called, Truth have always and only ever been a personal expression of those who promoted them. Think about it for a second, what we think is values and what we think is true. So I've only ever been Personal Expressions of the people who promoted them. So you don't want to follow the herd first off. If you're trying to truly find yourself, what you need to do is distance yourself from the herd because you fear, just following what everyone else is doing, of course, you're just going to be exactly like all them and you're not going to ask you truly find Who You Are.
One of the biggest things that I fight with people, is that what they're doing is they are creating themselves and who they think that other people want them to be versus actually being who they want to be. So, instead of sitting there in creating yourself into somebody that you think we'll get approval from other people, why don't you create yourself into the person that you truly are and who you want to be? And I get it because we are tribal being humans are tribal beings. A hundred thousand years ago. Two hundred thousand years ago, we had to fit in with the tribe. We relied on the tribe for our survival, if we were kicked out of the tribe in some sort of way we would die. And so we want to still fit in with people even though if we get kicked out of a friend that you were not going to die, we still have the same internal feelings of. I need to stick with these people and get fear if these people actually reject us. But really what happens is if we have to stick it you know stay the same as other people. It limits our individuality in a
I miss our creativity as well.
How terrible does it sound to know that your individuality is limited how terrible as it sounds to know that your creativity in the amazing thing that you can create in this world are limited?
How many people listening right now? Be honest with yourself, how many of you listening right now? Don't wear what you truly want to wear because it makes you stand out in some way. I'm able to wear that red outfit, red shirt, but you don't wear it because you like, yeah, but I don't want to stand out too much.
Why is that you're not you're giving up your true self expression.
So therefore, you don't stand up, stand apart from other people. How many don't act and don't do what you want to do and don't do and don't say what you want because of worries. About other people's thoughts, and opinions of you.
If you do that, you are truly 100%. Limiting your full expression of who you are. You are dimming your light just to keep others comfortable. You're giving your life to other people come from. I don't know about you, but fuck that? That sounds terrible. I don't want I'd rather be rejected by everybody than to dim my True Light.
And not be fully expressive who I am. And, you know, it's kind of like the phrase, the brightest light gets the arrows where it's like, hey, the person that stood out the most in a war. That's a thousand years ago, five hundred years ago, whatever it is. They're going to be the one that gets shot, so I can be the one that gets hit with the arrows. So, maybe I should stay here when this group.
But it doesn't help us any more right now. People don't want to stand out in fear of being rejected by the people that maybe they'll ridiculed for you for standing out because you're showing them that they're getting themselves. When things that I noticed the most
Is the reason why haters exist is not because they hate you. It's because they hate the. Person that they're hitting on is a reflection of who they want to be. So they might not want to be exactly that person. But a hater usually is somebody who is dimming the light completely. They see somebody else that's standing out and they want to hate on them. Because that person is reflection of what they're not and what they want to be. They want to stand out, they want to be who they truly. Are they want to be fully Express in an individual and creative but they're not
Is it a herd consists of people who have in a sense?
Killed their true self. They've killed their dreams that killed their goal.
and they live a life simply, so they'll fit in
If you stand out and makes you threatened, makes, you know, if that you stand out, it makes them feel threatened. It makes them feel insecure and it's like. Jim Carrey says, your need to be accepted, will make you invisible in this world. If you think of all the people to look up to all the amazing people who are, who have done something, amazing in this world that you like, that's my idol. They're not somebody who still down there, always somebody who set out from the crowd.
How do you think so many people have addictions, alcohol. Drugs food, sacks workaholism. It's because they numb the feeling of giving themselves and killing their dreams, simply because they're afraid of what other people might think of them. Now, people don't notice consciously, they usually don't know. Hey, the reason why they get addicted to drugs and alcohol food video games rolling on social media is because they're numbing himself from the feeling of giving themselves killing their dreams, simply because they're afraid of what other people might think of him, or because they don't want to stand out. So in turn, is that a feeling of feeling thing done? And so the first thing she want to do is not follow the herd mentality. The second thing is you want to do is embrace the difficulty of self-discovery. One of the phrases that Friedrich Nietzsche's says is it's only when we're willing to face the challenge of life that we are spiritually. Growing only when you are willing to face
Is the challenge in life that you're spiritually growing. You have to learn to take the difficult path. One of the things that we have is humans as we have the opportunity to be comfortable,
We do, we can take the path of least resistance, but never does anything. Amazing comes in path of least resistance. And so one way to help you with this to go on this path of self-discovery, is the start surrounding yourself with other people who are on the path.
I understand the path of self-discovery, can be hard and makes it easier when you're around people who value the journey as well. And I'm going to be honest with you.
There's not a whole lot of people invite. E. Journey. There's not a whole lot of people to listen to podcast like this and want to push himself and want to go. There's more people who want to stay comfortable and not get out of their comfort zone, but you have to start to distance yourself from people who aren't on that path, cuz you're going to be the average of The Five People. You spend the most time with some people will never hop on the south development rain and try to improve himself and try to improve their lives and himself in our family for everything.
And they're not going to hop on that train.
And honestly, don't slow you down any many cases. They will hold you back, but you have to realize that on this path of self-development on this path of trying to improve herself, trying to get better trying to improve your life, your family's life, the outcome of what you're going to be. There's going to be a lot of people who are not going to want to join the journey with you. That is completely fine. You have to be okay stepping into that, darkness by yourself the cave that you're afraid to enter holds the treasure that you seek, right? That's the thing. This thing that I was with my favorite quote, the cave that you're most afraid to enter holds the treasure that you seek, whatever it is that you're afraid to go into the feelings of your past, the hurt to pay Andy the trauma that you haven't resolved yet, that holds the treasure that you seek the cave that you're afraid to enter holds a charge that she seek the life that you want. Only come by overcoming the skeletons that are in the closet.
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Jump, that's number two. Number three is to say yes to what gives you meaning say? Yes to what gives you meaning? He who has a, why can bear almost any, how
He who has a, why can bear almost any, how you've got to learn to follow your own energy? What do I mean by that? If something gives you energy by thinking about it, if something gives you energy by doing it, that is where you're supposed to go. That is what you're supposed to follow. A lot of times, you know, if you ask somebody hate when you're, you're on your way to work. Does that work? Give you energy like, no, absolutely not. It's like wow, that's that's not what you're made to do. That's not what you're here to do. So start noticing what gives you energy, what makes you excited and what steals your energy from you? Say yes to a gives you meaning, what gives you energy if you followed the energy, that is a thing that gives you the meeting.
but when your, why is strong enough your how will reveal itself
So it's like what is the reason why you're supposed to be here? Well, you might know you might not know.
But if you were listening long enough to freeze that I always say that has to do with this is it is okay to not know what your purpose in this life is but it is not okay to not wake up every single day and being constant Pursuit fart. You have to wake up and try to find your purpose every single day. If you do not know what it is right now. So what is it that you love?
What is it that you love to do? Take a pen and paper and make a list of every single thing. Big small tiny that you love movie. Love ice cream. It's right. That shit down. Maybe love puppies, right? That shit down, write down every single thing. Maybe you love skydiving, right? Whatever it is. What is it that gives you energy? What do you like when you were a kid? What did you love?
What makes you the happiest? What is it when you do something you like man I feel amazing after doing this. What is that thing?
Do what you do is you make a list of as many things as possible to make you happy and then you look at that list every single morning and you ask yourself how can I put as many of these things into my schedule today?
How can you start saying? Yes to more things to give you meaning, how can you say more? You know, I get it. I'm going back, I'm thinking about heading on my cats and ice cream ice cream. Every damn day. But you can start to put it in once a week, you know? Maybe twice, we can be working out really hard. Whatever it is, but try to put as many of the things that make you happy into your day cuz you're not just here, just to wake up. Go to work, pay bills. I like you're supposed to enjoy this thing. So make a list of all things. Make you happy and figure out how you put that into your life.
You know, and what are the things I hear from? A lot of people is, is I'm 35 years old on 40 years on 45 years old in,
I can't leave my job cuz I've got a mortgage. I've got kids got a degree that I have followed and I can't leave this job now but
I guess we should have to stay here and it's like no that's not necessarily the case you can move at any time but I'm not saying is find what you love. Quit your job, do it tomorrow when I'm saying is go on a mission of finding what is it? You love. And if there is a way for you to eventually do that as a career, can you come up with a plan a transition plan over? Like the next two years? That is exactly what is it? You want to do. So you have two years of planning of working of saving of creating a plan and figuring out how it's going to work so that you can spend the majority of your waking hours because we spend the majority are waking hours working doing something that you love her so much. You don't love you and write down by 20, 24, 2025 26, whatever it is. I will not do anything that does not make me happy. I will not do anything, that does not like me up. I will not trade my time for money for anything that I do not love doing.
And you write that down and figure out what it is. So that's a three is to say yes to anything that gives you meaning
number for is to find your True Values. Find your True Values, can be a little tough for a lot of people, but it can also be easy once you start to think about it, the right way. Do you know what your True Values are? Not the values that you were taught. When you were a kid by your parents, by the church, by your family, by your brother, sister, whatever. Maybe not the values that other people have taught you, what are the values that you want to live by? Who do you want to be in one of the easiest way is to think about this is, I remember, I went to a friend's one of my friends from high school, her, dad died about five six, seven years ago now and I remember pulling up to the is go to the funeral and we were pulling up to the church.
And I was like holy crap there are so many people here and there was like hundreds of people and hundreds and hundreds of people and there was a place for you to sit all of the spots that were taken there. So many people that people are standing around the actual inside of the church. And I thought to myself, man, I hope this is what my funerals like, not like I want to do it because I'll help mom loved it. Always seem. So it's like, I want to be able to be the type of person that this many people will be in the hot sun in Florida and show up. And literally be there standing room only because of me the way that it was for him. To myself.
I don't want to be the person that dies and has just enough money in the bank account. I want to be the person that dies and it has a bunch of people show up to the funeral because that shows that she did something right, whatever that thing was. So you have to ask yourself what are your true values in? If, if somebody were to stand on a stage after you pass away and give a eulogy, what would you want them to say about you?
What do you want them to say and write down every single thing?
That you would want them to say about you kind giving Amazing Spider-Man, all the character traits and then figure out how can I become the person? That is the person that they would talk about on this piece of paper.
And write down everything that you want to be in on the other side of that, right down everyone and everything that limits, your freedom, every single thing that limits your freedom.
See what you come up with. And what you do is you start to find what your True Values are. What you want, what you don't want, and you start to make a plan to become that person every single day. You look at that list of character traits every single day. What you want people to say about you at your funeral every single day, you say, how can I become more of this person today? And really what you do, is you start to find your true values and live by those True Values that are your values. Not the values that you were taught when you were younger.
That is how you truly step into becoming who you want to be. And so those are the four steps to finding yourself and to become who you truly want to become. Number one, don't follow the herd mentality number to embrace the difficulty of self-discovery. Number three, say yes to what gives you meaning in number for Find Your Own True Values. So that's why I said, if you love this episode, please share it on your Instagram story, and tag me in it. Rob, dial, Junior. R, o b, e d. I a l Jr. And if you have not yet done so, with brand new Instagram that is just, you know, clips from this podcast, to feed your Instagram, feed with amazing stuff and help you with your mindset there as well. So if you want to follow me on that Instagram as well, it is the mindset Mentor podcast. Once candy, mindset Mentor podcast is the Instagram. Go ahead and follow me on there. Send me a message, say what's up?
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