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The Big Self Podcast
4.7 out of 5 stars
4.7 Based on 21 reviews
Julie Cook Davis
5 out of 5 stars
Great place to start!
I am just beginning to learn about the Enneagram and how much it affects our lives and relationships. I have listened to several of Shelly and Chad’s podcasts and know already they will be a great resource as I start this journey. I look forward to growing and learning more about myself and others in my life.
5 out of 5 stars
Fascinating and Relatable
My Enneagram type has been elusive to me but this podcast has helped me discern where I think I’m headed because Shelley and Chad are so relatable! Instead of this feeling like a very academic exercise or on the other end of the spectrum - some “whoohoo” mumble jumbo, I was able to listen and learn in a way that didn’t talk down to me or intimidate me. I am fascinated by the depth that the Enneagram reaches and I have been typed in many other instruments. Beyond the Enneagram series, this podcast is just awesome!
5 out of 5 stars
Excellent, practical information from a knowledgeable, curious, and caring duo! Their guests are equally as impressive. Great questions, dialogue, that promote growth and learning. I also appreciate the honesty and transparency. Highly recommend you listen in soon!
Dr Matt McC
5 out of 5 stars
Insightful questions and content!
As both a podcast listener and a one-time guest I’m consistently impressed by Shelley’s and Chad’s thoughtful questions and how they integrate so many perspectives into a cohesive, helpful narrative. It’s clear they’ve done, and continue to do, their own inner work, which is how they can contribute so much to ours.
5 out of 5 stars
Big Self=True Self
Love everything about this couple and their teachings, lessons and advice. Comes from the heart and each one speaks to something deep within my soul that I didn't even know was there. Keep it up, you ARE changing the world! Melissa Dorn, Chattanooga
5 out of 5 stars
The real world relatability of these podcasts make listening worthwhile, whichever type you are.
5 out of 5 stars
Really enjoying this podcast
I’ve listened to quite a few 'self help' related podcasts however this is one I keep coming back to. I think the combination of topics that really speak to me (Enneagram 8 panel out of the gate!) and the excellent production quality keep this at the top of my queue. Well done!
5 out of 5 stars
One of my favorite interviews ever!
It was a joy being on this podcast. The hosts do so much research to personalize the interview as much as possible. It's a specific format with questions that create a story about the person who's speaking. Such a great initiative!
5 out of 5 stars
Relevant and down-to-earth!
These podcasts are very helpful to providing really relevant, and useful concepts in a way that is friendly, caring, and extremely knowledgeable! Their vulnerability and deep conversations are eye opening and relatable.
5 out of 5 stars
Encouraging and Wonderful
Shelley and Chad Prevost are AMAZING. Their thoughtful approach towards their conversations are so special. If you are struggling to understand where your passions lie, this is the podcast for you.
5 out of 5 stars
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If you’re at all interested in understanding yourself better to become better, this is the podcast for you. Shelley and Chad are not only incredibly knowledgeable busy also perfectly approachable. Their episodes are perfect in length. Keep ‘em coming!
5 out of 5 stars
For the go-getters who don’t want to lose their souls
Shelley and Chad are the real deal. They inspire and encourage in meaningful and important ways. You won’t regret listening!
5 out of 5 stars
This podcast has made me think about various aspects of life that I usually wouldn’t pay any mind to!
5 out of 5 stars
These podcasts are bold and capture your attention while challenge your thinking and behaviors to keep you growing
5 out of 5 stars
So encouraging and inspiring
I’ve really enjoyed listening to The Big Self School podcast each week. It’s been such a great help in thinking about things that matter to me. It’s also encouraged me to do more hobbies I love and see self care more clearly in my day to day life. As a mother of a two year old, you can lose track of yourself quickly - it helps to have something grounding you to who you are and encouraging you in who you want to be.
5 out of 5 stars
This podcast is chock full. I recommend it to everyone I know!
I like how constructive the conversations are and how much I feel compelled to make changes in myself after listening.
5 out of 5 stars
I have been absolutely delighted with this podcast and following this duo on social media. Their wisdom has really helped me reframe my thoughts, address some of my negative self-beliefs, and truly hope for better for each and every one of us. Especially us who are searching for more meaning and being in our lives.
5 out of 5 stars
I’m a new listener and have so enjoyed the content, wisdom, and encouragement! Looking forward to more episodes and learning through The Big Self School 😀Check it out!
Thom Page, Jr.
5 out of 5 stars
Big ideas, down to earth style
I love the ideas of this podcast. My wife and I listen to it on our morning commute. Chad and Shelley are great on the Learning Curve, and they always ask their guests incisive questions and the content is consistently strong and often compelling.
5 out of 5 stars
Chad and Shelley have such a natural way of having deep and thought provoking conversations! They have challenged me to dig deep and really be intentional about being my best self!
5 out of 5 stars
Wisdom and Flow
With the wisdom of positive psychology and a husband/wife dialogue, Shelley and Chad bring a flow of conversation about tuning into our purpose. We can get caught up in living our lives as "human doings" instead of "human beings." This is a worthwhile podcast to help you tune into your Big Self, rather than just the Big idea.
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- Tame the Beast: A Simple Framework to Handle Your Inner CriticFor many of us, the inner voice is generally loving and encouraging, maybe not enthusiastic, but in your corner, calmly evaluating. In fact, a good internal dialog should function more like a reasonable judge. Or like Lester Bangs tells his young protege William Miller in Almost Famous : “I know you think those guys are your friends. You wanna be a true friend to them? Be honest, and unmerciful.” In other words, sometimes you need a good truth-telling even if it’s not what you want to hear. With that said, there is a reason we universally struggle with self-talk. Struggle implies conflict. And conflict with the self is what we call inner conflict. But the problem is twofold. Not only is it hard to do something about the way our inner critic talks to us, but a great deal of the time we’re not even aware we’re doing it. Why? Because it’s our default state. We’re used to the way we talk to ourselves. We’d almost never talk to our friends or family the way we sometimes may talk to ourselves. So why do we do it? Because our Inner Critic is fueled by the simultaneous belief that we are better than others and that we are less than others; both feelings are energized by harshness and contempt. Feeling that we’re not enough–especially at work—is painful. the consequences of not being aware of or tuning into what our Inner Critic is telling us can hurt us and hold us back in many of the most important areas of our lives. Time Stamps: 4:39--The inflating and deflating of the Inner Critic 7:15--The story of the two wolves inside us all 11:11--Anne Lamott quote of being militantly on your own side 14:42--Walking through a little thought exercise 18:52--Shelley names her Inner Critic and gives it a persona 25:38--There is a balancing we have to do, not just expect to completely get rid of the Inner Critic 32:22--Take on the persona of the Inner Teacher 34:27--The simple ABCDE framework Show Notes and Links: Brendon Burchard says that successful people use positive self-talk frequently. Pete Walker suggests memorizing your list of positive attributes and repeating them to yourself whenever you have an Inner Critic attack. Positive self-talk is part of the emotional healing process. Studies show that people who practice “self-compassion” are happier, more optimistic and less anxious and depressed. Follow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here . Subscribe on Spotify0 comments0
- 4 Reasons You Procrastinate and What To Do About ItEverybody procrastinates, but not everyone is a procrastinator. And contrary to popular belief, procrastinating has little to do with laziness. It’s far more complicated than simply being a matter of time management. Chronic procrastination doesn’t discriminate based on gender, race or age; we’re all susceptible. So, to provide a brief definition. Procrastination is the voluntary, unnecessary delay of an important task, despite knowing you’ll be worse off for doing so. And then here’s why it can actually be a pretty serious issue for a lot of people. Procrastination slows your goals and dreams way down. It can create stress and feelings of frustration. It can make time management useless. This often appears at work with day-to-day projects and tasks. Fortunately, it’s possible to learn how to overcome procrastination once we know why people procrastinate. Research has done a lot to help us understand procrastination psychology and why we continuously engage in this annoying behavior. We are going to take a look at the top reasons here, but first, let’s talk a little about our emotions and active vs. passive procrastination. Which type of procrastinator are you? Time Stamps: 4:20--The positive procrastinator 5:20--The other two types are passive procrastinators 12:43--Getting to the four big reasons we all procrastinate 20:00--Being "good enough" 30:47--SAW FIRE is the name of our framework for overcoming procrastinating Follow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here . Subscribe on Spotify0 comments0
- 7 Big Enemies of Learning (and the Antidotes)The futurist Alvin Toffler famously said, “The illiterate of the future are not those who can’t read or write but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” In their book Language and the Pursuit of Leadership Excellence, Chalmers Brothers and Vinay Kumar describe sixteen “enemies of learning.” They adopted them as first described by Julio Olalla, the noted coach, writer and teacher, and founder of The Newfield Network. These enemies include attitudes, assessments, and mindsets that, when firmly rooted, make learning or growth difficult. The traditional message that virtually everyone has been bombarded with since we were conscious enough to watch TV, listen to the radio or read advertisements, regardless of the field is that you the consumer are reinforced with the idea that if you have, you will do, and then be. HAVING leads to DOING leads to BEING. LEARNING = DOING (the thing even while you’re not good at it) LEARNING = Time + Practice (we get better by doing it again and again, cause and effect) You can also ratchet up the intensity and systematize it to the next level and add to your practice a rigor. All of which is to say learning about something is not the same as learning to DO One of the more interesting things about the current difficult economic environment has been watching how different business leaders have reacted to it. Those who have done the best to secure their companies’ interests, protect their market positions, and retain their best people, have in my experience been those who immediately went into learning mode. Whether they look at the changes as an opportunity to learn new strategies for success, or simply to learn how to survive in the new environment, they have opened themselves and their organizations to learning. In doing so, they have discovered new possibilities for themselves and their companies. Time Stamps: 2:16--The illiterate of the future are not those who can't read or write. But those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn. 4:22--Advertising is based on one thing 11:31--Principle number one 12:37--Deliberate practice 15:59--Where are you being led in your life to be experiencing learning outside your comfort zone? 16:46--Number one, our inability to admit that we don't know. 20:09--The antidote 21:54--Number two, confusing information with real knowing. 23:31--The antidote 24:13--A lack of priority for learning (never have time) 25:50--The antidote 26:22--Lack of trust 30:00--The antidote 32:07--Ignoring the emotional dimension of learning 35:00--Ignoring the body as a dimension of learning 39:00--The final enemy of learning on today's list, constantly having big opinions and assessments Show Notes and Links: Language and the Pursuit of Leadership Excellence by Chalmers Brothers and Vinay Kumar The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Follow up with us and check out our0 comments0
- With or Without You: Does Your Personality Change?The idea of this episode came out of a recent media sensation from a study done in Florida, and it showed some gentle shifts in the personalities of the 7,000 people it studied. The headlines are all over the place. (Links provided in our show notes and links.) On today’s episode we break down the latest findings, if they even matter for our understanding of personality, and why we want you to get a little clearer on what all this chatter is about when it comes to our personalities. First of all, let's define our terms: What do we mean by personality? What does the media mean? And also, besides the media attention and the fact that we do work on understanding our personalities, how is this a relevant topic for the Big Self Podcast? Time Stamps: 2:41--Why is this topic relevant? 5:52--The importance of social skills as researched for the past 100 years 10:10--We need help in understanding ourselves 14:45--The idea of falling asleep to ourselves 21:15--Why researchers narrow it down to five criteria only 21:50--The Five mainstays of personality research 27:07--At higher levels of awareness people start to look alike? Show notes and links: https://www.cnn.com/2022/09/28/health/personality-change-covid-wellness/index.html https://www.themarginalian.org/2012/03/02/character-personality/?fbclid=IwAR32i3sOmxn5Nylttzrs0qAfxjyRzBJpxYYQILGkCs1NID7-4o3wvQl455Y https://www.livescience.com/personality-age-change.html https://psychcentral.com/health/personality-development#personality-disorders https://www.apa.org/pubs/highlights/podcasts/episode-30 https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/people-unexplained/202202/will-your-personality-change-in-the-next-6-years The Benefits of Not Being a Jerk to Yourself (Dan Harris Ted Talk) Subscribe on Spotify Subscribe on Apple iTunes Follow up with us and check out our Burnout Coaching Package here .0 comments0
- Lighten Up: Why is it So Hard to Let Yourself Play?We have put “play” as one of our Big Self pillars from the very beginning, but I don’t think we’ve done a single episode on it. We do talk about creativity and gratitude. But that’s not quite the same thing. For one thing, it’s hard to really define what we even mean by play. In fact it’s so elusive to really define for adults, even after I had decided we definitely need to do an episode on play, I started wondering if this is really something our audience needs or wants. We’re talking about serious stuff on this podcast, stuff that is going to help people in their pain, in their crisis’. And then we realized, that experience is the very process we undergo for YEARS as we transition into adulthood. Important for us or not, play can feel silly, certainly unproductive, and time consuming. And that’s precisely the point. On today’s episode we are going to do the impossible: we are going to seriously persuade you to PLAY. This better be fun. Time Stamps: 3:04--Let me ask you a question about play 6:28--Great questions, but how are defining play? 10:59--There's a lot of variability in the definition of play 13:12--There are "four different styles of play" 21:30--In which Shelley geeks out on the parasympathetic nervous system 29:24--Quote by Jean Piaget 33:32--3 suggestions for play Show Notes and Links: https://www.museumofplay.org/journalofplay/ (American Journal of Play) http://www.amazon.com/Play-Shapes-Brain-Imagination-Invigorates/dp/1583333789/?tag=psychcentral (Play) by Stuart Brown, MD https://www.harpercollins.com/9780062391360/well-played/ (Well Played: The Ultimate Guide to Awakening Your Family’s Playful Spirit) by Meredith Sinclair http://www.nifplay.org/ (National Institute for Play) A list of http://nifplay.org/biblio_fin.html (research on play) Stuart Brown’s http://www.ted.com/talks/stuart_brown_says_play_is_more_than_fun_it_s_vital.html (TED talk on play) Scott Eberle’s blog http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/play-in-mind (“Play in Mind”) http://www.scholarpedia.org/article/Definitions_of_Play (Play definition) Study: “https://www.researchgate.net/publication/311631718_A_new_structural_model_for_the_study_of_adult_playfulness_Assessment_and_exploration_of_an_understudied_individual_differences_variable (A new structural model for the study of adult playfulness: Assessment and exploration of an understudied individual differences variable)” Study: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/01490400.2013.761905?journalCode=ulsc20 (The Playful Advantage: How Playfulness Enhances Coping with Stress) Study: https://www.europeanjournalofhumour.org/index.php/ejhr/article/view/Rene%20Proyer (The well-being of playful adults: Adult playfulness, subjective well-being, physical well-being, and the pursuit of enjoyable activities) https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (Subscribe on Apple iTunes) https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify) Follow up with us and check out our https://www.bigselfschool.com/coaching (Burnout Coaching Package here).0 comments0
- Expect Resistance: 5 Ways to Sustain the Change You Want to Be"I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor." –Thoreau Some of us are dabblers, some of us are obsessives, and some of us are hackers. Which one are you? They’re basically just different approaches many people take to learning. The dabbler loves when things are new. Just loves the shiny new object and everything about starting something. The obsessive is focused on getting results as fast as possible. The hacker gets good enough at something and is fine where she or he is. Don’t really like any of the options? Is there a better way? We probably all can recognize ourselves in a combination of these learning styles. And yes there is a problem with them all: we never get on the road to mastery with them. They aren’t the stuff of lifelong learning. Let's get on the path of a master. Certainly when we are patient and stick with our learning day in and day out, we are definitely more on the path. But with all of that said, many of us begin to experience change and then we hit the plateau. That long period of time where we’re sticking with it, pushing hard, staying strong…and nothing happens. Or we begin to experience change and then we run into resistance. AND we might begin to think this shiny new object or all this efforting isn’t worth it and we criticize ourselves for even trying. We even begin to use language which reveals our negative thinking and the stories we tell ourselves, and we think we’re “just being real” and give up. How part of what’s going on when we regress or retract is about the body's response to stress. Change? Homeostasis is first to be understood. Then, you can be prepared to meet it and learn the long path toward deep mastery. Time Stamps: 3:18--Changing anything can be difficult 5:14--The link between change and stress is novelty 9:13--Homeostasis defined 15:38--Top five ideas for how you can achieve sustainable change 16:43--Number one may be the most important, understanding how it works 19:39--As you adapt the resistance gets easier to deal with 26:05--When you're negotiating with your resistance 27:55--You can do it alone, but a support system is recommended 30:22--Follow a regular practice 32:52--Dedicate yourself to lifelong learning 34:49--Shelley's "Why" Show Notes: Steven Pressfield on anything having to do with https://www.amazon.com/Do-Work-Overcome-Resistance-Your/dp/1936891379 (Resistance) https://www.amazon.com/Mastery-Keys-Success-Long-Term-Fulfillment/dp/0452267560/ref=asc_df_0452267560/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312006100296&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=7805532858432999316&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9013276&hvtargid=pla-434388188865&psc=1 (Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment) by George Leonard https://www.amazon.com/Homo-Ludens-Study-Play-Element-Culture/dp/1621389995 (Homo Ludens: A Study of the Play Element in Culture ) by Johan Huizinga https://www.amazon.com/After-Ecstasy-Laundry-Heart-Spiritual/dp/0553378295 (After the Ecstasy, the Laundry) by Jack Kornfield Follow up with us and check out our https://www.bigselfschool.com/coaching (Burnout Coaching Package here). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify)0 comments0
- What Do We Mean by Inner Work?To say our culture prizes the “outer” (whether it’s outer work or the apparent “outer reality”) is an understatement. And by contrast, you hear a lot of leaders and coaches and people who have learned through trial and tribulation that you have to do the “inner work” first. But what is inner work, and how is it different from what we do at work every day? Many people already have commendable achievements in the ‘outer work’ aspect of their life. By this, I mean growing in their careers, managing a business, or having meaningful relationships. But ‘outer work’ is a small part of who we are as people. As a society, we’re fixated on outer work. We count the number of followers we have on social media or use the money in our life or the degrees that we have ALL as representative of who we are. These elements have little to do with our inner worlds. In fact, we may not even know what our inner world looks like at all. Maybe it’s barren and empty. Maybe it’s cluttered and full of infinite distractions. So, for all the power and depth and breadth of the inner work, why do we tend to avoid it? Why does it not seem to have a seat at the table in many corporations and organizations? We share our definitions of what "inner work" means, and discuss the dimensions it entails for our cognition, the language that we use, our emotions, and our bodies. Time Stamps: 1:46--What we're discussing today 3:32--We tend to overemphasize the results (the outer) 6:55--Messy to try and come up with how you measure inner work, but one way is to measure it by the way it leads to outer results 11:20--Three inner work definitions. Which one is the best? You decide. 12:38--Chad's personal experience and definition with what he calls spiritual 13:44--Shelley's similar experiences 18:18--The incredible insights that listening to your language brings 22:50--What's that about? a good operating question 26:10--Emotional and mental work are similar 30:55--The body center 33:46--The body is the portal Follow up with us and check out our https://www.bigselfschool.com/coaching (Burnout Coaching Package here). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify)0 comments0
- The Gift of Sadness in a World that Just Wants HappinessWhen I first started thinking about how powerful sadness is an entry point–as a huge territory–for growth, I immediately was like, “this would never make a podcast.” I can see it now: People clicking on the headline wanting to learn more about how they too can be sad. Doesn’t have quite the marketing hook of “how to be happier by thinking positively.” But in a way, that’s just the point. Sadness is the very inversion of happiness. We’ve been inundated by “happiness” and the power of positive thinking for at least 70 years, and I feel like last decade in the 2010s we saw a real resurgence of it (whatever that was about, it seems like it was related to the explosion of neuroscience research). And for some happiness researchers, like Jennifer Moss, who we had on the podcast last season, she began to turn her attention to asking questions about “what is keeping us from this elusive happiness” and she began looking into the burnout culture and the toxicity in the workplace. Plenty of stress happens there! And really all kinds of emotions, right? But the point I’m trying to make here is that as I began to explore this space, I began to see a HUGE territory for us to explore with sadness. The kind of sadness we’re talking about today is not about grief or depression. Those are different territories. No matter what, of course, you don’t want to get stuck anywhere. We are not talking about “staying” in sadness. We ARE talking about letting it in. That’s right. We are talking about the places in your life, whatever your personality structure may be, where sadness is knocking. Time Stamps: 2:30--Sadness isn't something that we need to manufacture 4:21--What is your relationship to sadness? Shelley asks Chad 10:55--What other happiness studies showed (and how it's not so simple) 13:07--The Wheel of Emotions 18:55--Do you think of sadness as a negative emotion? Chad asks Shelley 24:16--Sadness is an important emotion that helps everyone in numerous ways 27:14--Sadness plus shame equals depression 31:03--Shame has this tendency to keep us stuck 38:20--Sadness connects to awareness in general 42:00--Typically emotions last for 15 to 30 seconds (unless you feed it a story) 44:30--We would love to hear how this lands this episode lands for people Show Notes and Links: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/four_ways_sadness_may_be_good_for_you (Greater Good on Four Ways Sadness May be Good for You) https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/handy-hints-humans/201609/why-its-good-feel-sad (Psychology Today on Why Its Good to Feel Sad) https://www.harpersbazaar.com/uk/culture/a35705519/why-its-good-for-you-to-be-sad (Harper Bazaar on Why Its Good for You to Be Sad) Follow up with us and check out our https://www.bigselfschool.com/coaching (Burnout Coaching Package here). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify)0 comments0
- More Than a Feeling: Practical Habits to Form Enduring ChangeHabits will make or break us. Habits will deliver results one way or the other. Our focus doesn’t just come from getting out our calendars and setting proper weekly and daily goals. It doesn’t emerge from understanding https://www.investopedia.com/terms/1/80-20-rule.asp (the 80/20 rule). It comes from the application of principles that elude us because they come from within. What comes from within is less measurable, and often less clear at first. For that matter, it’s scary going within. There are reasons we’ve pushed things into our unconscious. The key here is the application. Because our habits are the actions we repeat again and again and again, they reveal our character. You find it in all the ancient greats. Ask Seneca. Consult Marcus Aurelius. Reason through, in this case, Aristotle’s ethics. You could say you can know who you are through your habits because habits also reveal another aspect of ourselves, they reveal our values. On this week's episode, Chad connects the inner to the outer when it comes to living out your values. What is the Habit Paradox? How do you turn your thoughts and values into sustained action? Time Stamps: 0:31--The idea of applying practical wisdom, to form enduring change 3:22--Contrary to popular belief, willpower is in the body AND mind, but requires energy and isn't enough alone to form a habit 6:30--Our habits and what they reveal 10:31--The way the habit paradox develops 16:28--Why do you know what to do but don't do it? 21:13--Why Aristotle would have called you practically wise if you are able to live out what you value 23:11--Unpacking Aristotle's statement about how the person who has mastered their emotions will ever go back or slip into Akrashia 27:09--Naming the "When" 29:43--Finally answering the "Why" Show Notes and Links: https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/aristotle-ethics/ (Aristotle's Ethics) https://scopeblog.stanford.edu/2011/12/29/a-conversation-about-the-science-of-willpower/#:~:text=Both!,%2Dblown%20mind%2Dbody%20response.&text=It%20also%20sends%20extra%20energy,you%20override%20impulses%20and%20cravings. (The Science of Willpower) Follow up with us and check out our https://www.bigselfschool.com/coaching (Burnout Coaching Package here). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify)0 comments0
- Visualize This: Evidence to Support the Law of AttractionToday’s episode is focused on visualization and specifically we put on our critical thinking hats and consider how it plays into the Law of Attraction. This law can be easily misunderstood. So, we are going to explore what it really means, how it can be harnessed and why it truly is powerful when applied with discipline, and also what it is NOT. What we focus on, we attract. The Law Of Attraction goes way beyond just 'visualizing' or 'vision boarding' our dreams. What we're ultimately doing is feeling and tuning into our vision of how we want things to be. We discuss not only how you conduct visualization, but also how you must do so with discipline, the same way anyone trains any other part of their body. This episode is chock full of fascinating nuggets about the brain, supported by science and evidence-based research, AND with specific takeaways that you can take with you wherever you happen to be listening. Time Stamps: 1:10--The law of attraction, what it is and how it's had some twisted iterations over the years 7:13--The question for our audience today 8:50--When Shelley first started getting intentional about visualizing in 2010 14:09--One of the enemies of learning: daring to dream 17:17--Setting the intention 25:19--Matthew Ricard, the molecular biologist who became a Buddhist monk 28:43--How you've got to train your brain 32:36--Visualization connects to RAS (Reticular Activating System) 37:40--Not like magic, it takes energizing your life in a certain direction 45:30--Start with small things and then go to big Follow up with us and check out our https://www.bigselfschool.com/coaching (Burnout Coaching Package here). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify)0 comments0
- Is it Sobering to be Sober? Clearing Roadblocks and Shifting Beliefs around DrinkingIf you’re like a lot of people, you don’t really care about the health effects of drinking, and frankly you probably don’t care to know. But the fact is that most of us have been drinking more than we want to for a long time. And a lot of the time when we do this it also fills us with guilt, maybe even shame. Or to bring this full circle, maybe you really don’t think about it and don’t want to think about it. But if you’re honest, really honest, like we chose to get honest with ourselves finally–you probably don’t feel entirely in control of your ability to choose whether or not you actually drink. We are not here to evangelize. But we are here to share a couple of things. First, as coaches, we fully recognize that we have to be doing the very work that we are coaching others in. If we are helping others free themselves from mindless habits and envisioning the life they want, we have to have done the work ourselves. Perhaps even more importantly for you, we want you to see–to have the insight or recognition–that you are in control of you. You can shift your thinking and experience transformation unlike what you ever thought might be possible. It doesn’t matter what your friends will say or think. It doesn’t matter what your spouse will say or think. It does matter what you believe and what you think. And this topic, like any other, is about beliefs, both conscious and unconscious. It is about the power of these beliefs and how they shape our thinking, and therefore our actions. The aim of this episode is NOT to offer you tips. Tips are a dime a dozen whether they’re good ones or bad. What is more difficult to come by are workable ways to apply tips, to replace one behavior pattern with another. When you learn how to change a habit, it is usually not too hard to decide which ones to change. Let’s dive in! Time Stamps: 2:30--Maybe you're just a little curious about evaluating your relationship to alcohol. 6:14--We want you to have the recognition that you have the control over your thinking and what you want to do, and this is about shifting your thinking, not tips. 9:50--How alcohol dependency became like a slow burn, just this habit that formed over time. 15:24--When the shift happened for Shelley early on this year. 21:40--How you can self-assess where you are right now and thinking of the desire behind the habit, or is it the habit behind the desire? 24:01--Chad tells his story of his relationship with alcohol. 29:10--Chad's approach is a little different than Shelley's. 29:48--Quote by Dostoevsky about habits in the second half of life. 32:15--How the habit may start first. 37:31--If you want to start taking it to the next level and other ideas. 40:20--The final takeaway. Show note links for further inquiry: https://thisnakedmind.com/ (This Naked Mind) https://www.ndph.ox.ac.uk/news/new-genetic-study-confirms-that-alcohol-is-a-direct-cause-of-cancer (New genetic study confirms that alcohol is a direct cause of cancer) https://today.uic.edu/a-factory-reset-for-the-brain-cures-anxiety-drinking-behavior/ (A ‘factory reset’ for the brain cures anxiety, drinking behavior) https://medicalxpress.com/news/2015-08-sudden-insights-brain.html (What sudden insights look like inside the brain) Follow up with us and check out our https://www.bigselfschool.com/coaching (Burnout Coaching Package here). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify)0 comments0
- Radical Responsibility: How Shelley Climbed Out of the Burnout HoleShelley shares her story of burning out and what she's done with it five years on. Chad asks questions based on what he's hearing and thinking about from her story. Shelley discusses how she began to take radical responsibility for herself and her "self" alone and how this led to the tipping point of recovery. We learn about how Social Twos have their own special sauce when it comes to control, and how pride takes hold of the ego. Time Stamps: 1:09--How the story has evolved 3:40--Back in 2014, I started a venture backed technology company 8:05--How Shelley refused to admit defeat for months even after the team was gone 10:20--Working 80-hour weeks 13:54--On control and the need for humility 24:06--How Shelley had to get out of the frying pan 27:00--After stabilizing, the next step is analyzing 28:37--The final step is visualizing 34:04--"We're either broken open, or we willfully shed." 35:05--Why Shelley can be grateful for her burnout now (five years later) 39:46--Expectations lead to a lot of our unhappiness 44:41--When the system doesn't work (and we don't work in the system) 49:00--The idea of radical responsibility and how it led to a turning point 53:06--Shelley's final reflection question We're so glad to have you here for our second episode of Season 4! https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify)0 comments0
- What Does it Really Mean to Fail? 8 Self-Coaching Lessons (and a True Story) on FailureWe've got a few questions on the subject of failure. Do you really learn from failure? What does it mean to actually fail at something? How big or how small does the failure have to be? Do you really learn more when you have a losing season instead of a winning one? Where did the “fail fast” mentality come from, and does it mean the same thing today? Everyone’s paths are different, but many of us start out with early indications about what we should be for the rest of our lives. We begin to believe that the only way for the arch of lives to be considered a success is to make sure those first mountain life decisions turn out to be the fulfillment of those early dreams. What happens when those plans don’t turn out the way you thought they would? What does it mean to fail at something that seems so big? The truth is everyone fails. Everyone experiences setbacks both personal and professional. It IS of course what you do with the failure. But the truth is also that failure is a lot more complicated than the “fail fast” mantra would have you believe. First of all, failure sucks. Failure is messy. Of the four noble truths of Buddhism, the first is that life IS suffering. And the second noble truth? That the avoidance of suffering causes more suffering. We avoid failure in the same way we avoid suffering. So what happens when you identify, accept, and even embrace failure? And what are the failure(s) you truly do want to avoid? We figure it all out on Chad's big failure story on this week's first edition of Season 4 of the Big Self Podcast! Time Stamps: 3:19--How David Brooks' The Second Mountain has a lot do with what we're talking about 6:33--The second mountain is when you you shed the ego enough to break open 8:32--What does it actually mean to fail at something because none of us want to fail? 11:37--Even about the age of 10, I was always interested in being a writer 13:30--Your first mountain. So you just turned 50 crossed the threshold. 19:39--What do you now see that you've learned from the failure? 20:25--Congratulations on the failure 24:51--Failure Lesson #1 27:16--Failure Lesson #2 31:05--Failure Lesson #3 31:56--Failure Lesson #4 35:57--Failure Lesson #5 38:47--Failure Lesson #6 41:27--Failure Lesson #7 43:30--Failure Lesson #8 Show Notes: The Second Mountain by David Brooks Falling Upwards by Richard Rohr Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life by James Hollis My Losing Season by Patrick Conroy Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Life and Love from Dear Sugar by Cheryl Strayed Born a Crime: Stories From a South African Childhood by Noah Baumbach Live Your Truth by Kamal Ravikant Courage: The Joy of Living Dangerously by Osho Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify)0 comments0
- You Are a Human Being, Not a Human Doing with Nataly KoganBurnout has become one of the most talked about workplace and life topics, and its impact is far-reaching. But too much of the conversation is focused on the problem vs. what we can actually do to break free from burnout. In her new game-changing, self-illustrated book, THE AWESOME HUMAN PROJECT: Break Free from Daily Burnout, Struggle Less, and Thrive More in Work and Life Nataly makes a compelling case that while challenges in life are constant, struggle is optional. She offers us proven science-backed and engaging methods to help us break through the cycle of “daily burnout,” as she defines it -- methods which have already transformed over a million people and counting. Nataly’s book is intensely personal and written as a response to her own journey as a refugee who viewed struggle as a way of life. After achieving tremendous success in the corporate and startup worlds, Nataly suffered a debilitating burnout, which taught her a powerful lesson: You can’t give what you don’t have. We are delighted to have Nataly on for our 100th episode and our final guest for the first quarter of 2022. https://natalykogan.com/ (Find Nataly here), or at https://www.happier.com/ (happier.com). Time Stamps: 3:09--Why Nataly and her parents fled the former Soviet Union in 1989 8:20--How Nataly went through a debilitating burnout 10:40--Nataly's experience with startups and struggling, and the difference of challenge 15:12--Getting emotionally fit, and how Nataly found her way 18:20--How Nataly realized she wasn't just her brain (and learned to talk back) 22:40--The five ways to keep emotionally fit (in a nutshell) 29:00--For people who are moving into burnout in a pretty deep way right now 34:00--Normalizing self-care as a priority at work 38:45--You don't need to burnout to learn, but you probably need an interruption 41:41--Playing it forward and asking, "How do you want to experience your life?" 45:15--What Nataly hopes you'll takeaway from her book https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify).0 comments0
- Investing in the Self and Others with Ted AllingToday we speak with entrepreneur and investor, Ted Alling. Ted is a leader in Chattanooga who uses his entrepreneurial achievements to create opportunities for others. He is the co-founder and former CEO of a $500-million startup, Access America, which merged with UPS subsidiary Coyote Logistics. That initial success allowed Ted and his fellow Access America founders to create Lamp Post Group, a venture capital firm and tech-focused incubator located right here in Chattanooga, Tennessee. Lamp Post is responsible for developing and incubating literally dozens of startups. From there, he co-founded Dynamo in 2016, a venture-capital fund with a focus in logistics technology. And then in 2018, he and his wife Kelly, helped to found the Chattanooga Preparatory School, an all-boys charter school. Chattanooga Prep is designed to provide unique and impactful educational opportunities for the young men in the city’s urban communities, and it opened to its inaugural class of sixth graders in August 2018 and now has over 300 young men. It’s been a wild ride throughout the past two decades, and Ted has not only succeeded himself, but has an ability to bring others along with him. He has also done a lot of personal development and learned a lot, sometimes the hard way, about himself, others, and best practices when it comes to building companies and culture. That is why we wanted to speak with him on the Big Self Podcast. Time Stamps: 4:00--Ted's love of the Enneagram 6:24--The biggest hack for all our listeners on the Enneagram 10:20--The progressive realization of a worthy ideal (what success is) 18:00--How some companies are living out their values now more than in the recent past 27:43--When Ted and Kelly met David Robinson in researching for their prep school 30:57--How Chattanooga Prep selects the 70 students they enroll each year 34:40--How they create the "Disney World Experience" for the kids right off the bat 37:43--When Ted first discovered the power (and addictive nature) of the Blackberry 40:33--How Ted recognizes how some have huge advantages over others https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify).0 comments0
- The S Curve of Smart Growth with Whitney JohnsonLeading teams and organizations to greatness has never been more challenging than it is right now. But there is opportunity amidst the chaos. We are now in an era of post-traumatic growth. An https://www.egonzehnder.com/it-starts-with-the-ceo/highlights (Egon Zehnder study) reports that 80% of CEOs strongly agreed they needed to transform themselves as well as their organizations—up from 26% prior to the pandemic. Employees want to grow. Leaders want to help their people and their companies grow—and recognize that the only way to do that is to grow themselves. The challenge lies in knowing how to stop walking in circles, and move forward. In her new book SMART GROWTH: How to Grow Your People to Grow Your Company (Harvard Business Review Press; January 11, 2022) Whitney Johnson, CEO of Disruption Advisors, and one of the top ten business thinkers in the world as named by Thinkers50, provides a set of tools to get smart about growth. Whitney Johnson is CEO of the tech-enabled development company Disruption Advisors, an Inc. 5000 fastest-growing private company in America and was recently named #8 on the Thinkers50 list for 2021, made up of the 50 leading business thinkers in the world. She is an award-winning author, a regular keynote speaker and she and Shelley really hit it off on this week's episode. Time Stamps: 3:50--Working on a new framework of personal disruption led to the S Curve concept 9:55--Whitney's turning point moment of realizing she is going to have to disrupt herself 11:45--What's interesting about different kinds of fears 16:31--We're all operating at different levels of fears and awareness 19:38--Whenever you start something new you are at the base of the S 25:00--The many different ways you can apply the S curve to your life 31:06--The six stages of growth that correspond to the S curve 39:00--That place where your identity is shifting 44:20--You want to race before you've spent time in the collector phase 47:40--How 2022 is the Great Aspiration rather than the Great Resignation Show notes links: https://whitneyjohnson.com/ (https://whitneyjohnson.com/) Be one of the first three listeners to leave us a review on https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (on Apple iTunes) and receive your free copy of Whitney's brand new hardcover: Smart Growth: How to Grow Your People to Grow Your Company. https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.0 comments0
- Co-Creating the Power of Joy with Anne ScottlinAnne Scottlin is on a mission around the world to help people from business executives to creatives to startup employees who wear a lot of hats to find their joy. What does joy mean? What does it mean to possess it and carry it around with you wherever you go? Tune in to find out. Plus, how Anne practices her own methods in her life. Also, what happened when Anne mind-mapped her life and connected the dots from Medieval literature to acting to altruism around the world supporting oppressed women. Thanks for tuning in to this week's Big Self Podcast. Show notes links: Find Anne’s newly released book, https://amzn.to/3IyULBY (Live For Joy), here. Grab a one-week journal to foster and create your own joy awareness at https://www.annescottlin.com/joyjournal (https://www.annescottlin.com/joyjournal). Time Stamps: 3:40--The difference between joy and happiness 6:00--Wishful thinking and how to overcome it, and how Anne's early experiences led to her life journey of finding joy and then wanting to share it with others 11:40--The relationship of the PERMA model 17:25--What Anne advises when people want to make a career transition 24:25--The conflict that creating such deep individualism often brings 33:46--We tend to remember where we fell short 40:00--The Big Self Takeaway Leave us a review and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (subscribe on Apple iTunes). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.0 comments0
- Teams beat burnout at work with Paula DavisLong before the pandemic gripped the world and blurred the lines between home and work, we had become a nation suffering high levels of burnout. It is one of the most discussed, and far-reaching problems in the workplace today. And that is why we are covering it from a wide variety of perspectives on our podcast here at the top of the year from top business professionals and trained coaches, researchers, and leaders. In https://amzn.to/344LRfH (BEATING BURNOUT AT WORK: Why Teams Hold the Secret to Well-Being and Resilience), founder of the https://stressandresilience.com/ (Stress and Resilience Institute) Paula Davis provides a new framework to help organizations prevent employee burnout via a holistic approach. Her research-driven and actionable book is the first to explore a comprehensive approach for building the resilience of teams of all sizes. Her framework works with organizations ranging from Harvard Law School to Walgreens, and is aimed at reshaping the organizational policies, decision-making, and political, social, and economic issues that contribute to workplace stress. Time Stamps: 4:44--A big part of what people are getting wrong about burnout 8:42--We can't just keep approaching the systemic issue of burnout through the individual, which is what lead to the idea of working with teams first and foremost 12:06--Interesting research that you can be highly engaged and burned out 14:15--Psychological safety as a foundational element 20:16--Start with the Resilient Teams Inventory 25:10--Detecting your icebergs 29:23--The core values and powerful themes that come up for leaders that they're not always conscious of 32:40--We don't listen to understand; different kinds of listening 35:58--Suck it up and drive on and do it the way I did it 42:00--The importance of coaching 44:03--The Big Self Takeaway Leave us a review and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (subscribe on Apple iTunes). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.0 comments0
- Beating the Burnout Epidemic with Jennifer MossWe’ve been covering burnout from our inception at the top of 2020. We've suffered from it in different ways and at different times in our lives. Now we help organizations and leaders deal with it, and we had no idea how acute it would become and how the screws would tighten with the circumstances and chaos of the pandemic. And who better to bring on the show to discuss her own unique strategies and experiences than Jennifer Moss? In her compelling new book, Moss argues our current strategies are getting it all wrong – that self-care won’t cure burnout and organizations need to entirely rethink their approach to wellness. Leveraging her latest research and evidence-based solutions, her recent book, https://amzn.to/3G2jRYl (The Burnout Epidemic: The Rise of Chronic Stress and How We Can Fix It), will help leaders and individuals prevent burnout for healthier, happier, and more productive workplaces. We tend to think of burnout as a problem we can solve with self-care: more yoga, better breathing techniques, and more resilience. But evidence is mounting that applying personal, Band-Aid solutions to an epic and rapidly evolving workplace phenomenon isn't even close to enough. Moss’s book is eye-opening, paradigm-shifting, and offers a practical guide, laying bare the real causes of burnout and how organizations can stop the chronic stress cycle that an alarming number of workers suffer through. Self-care is important, but it's not a cure-all for burnout. Be sure and stay tuned to the end for our Big Self Takeaway! Time Stamps: 4:31--The root causes of burnout 6:28--The World Health Organization definition of burnout 8:05--When your leaders are passionate about their work and they become less aware of the model they're setting 9:30--Feeling external pressure in high growth organizations 12:10--Industries we're seeing a lot of burnout in 14:08--Overwork is responsible for 2.8 million deaths last year 18:38--Research on video conferencing fatigue 23:52--How Jennifer used to look down on burnout before she went through it 26:30--Seeing an accumulation of small traumas leading to grief 31:30--The Big Self Takeaway Leave us a review and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (subscribe on Apple iTunes). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.0 comments0
- You CAN change other people with Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson“People change all the time,” write Peter Bregman and Howie Jacobson in their new book, https://amzn.to/3FvJVdB (You CAN Change Other People). “They make big changes like starting businesses, getting married, moving, or getting a new job. And they make smaller changes like eating healthier, waking up earlier, or listening better. But people change when they choose to change. If they feel like you’re trying to make them change? Forget it.” How do we help others make changes they actually want and need to make? Well, drawing on decades of experience helping leaders, employees, and others to change, Bregman and Jacobson offers a straightforward, proven, and repeatable four-step process for helping people make meaningful changes, and we get a taste of that in our conversation today. We are always on the lookout for those books that offer us depth, give us specific takeaways and challenges, and also inspire us. Oh, and do all this without shaming us to do better or else we suck. And today’s guests have executed on a book full of ideas that does just that. Be sure and stay tuned to the end for our Big Self Takeaway! Time Stamps: 2:10--So how did you all come to think of this and research this for the book? 7:00--Ally is the first step to shift from critic to ally 9:05--The first step in the process actually does begin with yourself when you step in as a supporter 15:30--What to do if you've asked for permission give feedback and they (on rare occasions) say, "No." 21:48--How do you handle working with shame with individuals 27:58--The people I most want to be in conversation with 33:27--Is there anything good in a person's "bad" behavior? 41:15--Develop a plan for people to track themselves 49:25--The Big Self Takeaway Leave us a review and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (subscribe on Apple iTunes). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.0 comments0
- 5 Strategies for Your End of Year ReviewIt’s that time of year! Time for reflection. Time for slowing down and chilling out after all the social functions. And time to recharge those batteries. We are taking inventory to pat ourselves on the back for our accomplishments, to get real about the small and possibly big ways we can improve our coming year. We break it down into five pragmatic and powerful ways to move forward in self-awareness, in confidence, in optimism, and to make those annual goals using the SMARTER method, and breaking them down into small, manageable steps. Time Stamps: 2:47--This is more like a life audit and not like some kind of PIP 3:49--The guiding question 10:27--As much as what you stop doing as by what you do do 15:00--As yourself what you're avoiding and why 19:32--Looking at those moments where you came alive 21:06--Annual goals should be SMARTER 26:49--Start thinking in micro steps toward the big goals 32:05--Our final word for the year Leave us a review and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (subscribe on Apple iTunes). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.0 comments0
- The way out is through with Sebastian MatthewsSebastian Matthews experienced a life-changing event that was almost life-ending. Besides the broken bones, part of his growth process for him and his family was dealing with the trauma. He tells us that sometimes PTSD doesn’t even set in until a couple of years after the event. He also tells us that we don’t all have to go through such an intense trauma to experience things like burnout, anxiety, and disconnection from yourself and others. He believes in the creative life, in soft boundaries between work and play, but definitely adheres to some clear and consistent routines. He also believes in connection. He began that process first by writing about the experience with his book, https://amzn.to/3ycDry1 (Beginner’s Guide to a Head-On Collision). More recently, his award-winning https://amzn.to/334btca (Beyond Repair: Living in a Fractured State) documents his experience in reconnecting with the culture, community, and country he found himself immersed in. He reminds us that we need to start with ourselves, but after the healing begins, there comes a time to quit the navel-gazing and get out there and re-connect with the world. While getting out of the house and meeting up with old friends in different places is one way, the deeper connection is to connect with your community. Sebastian reminds us of ways to do so in reasonable, realistic ways. One lesson he’s learned through the past decade of struggle is that “the only way out is through.” But the second, no less important one, is that when you give back to others, you reap unexpected rewards. This is the way to growth, healing, and beating the sense of disconnection so many of us find ourselves in here at the end of 2021. Time Stamps: 2:43--Shelley says she sees burnout as a continuum 3:36--Sebastian describes his struggle with stress and how it may relate to burnout 7:09--Sebastian sees a definitive turning point in his life from his car accident 10:35--What was the impetus behind Sebastian's decision to move forward? 14:34--You don't have to go through a massive traumatic event to learn to cope and move forward 24:58--How can you serve and give back without necessarily being a frontline activist? 27:29--Multitasking gets a bad rap 31:32--Sebastian reads a section from his book called "Invisible" Leave us a review and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (subscribe on Apple iTunes). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.0 comments0
- Experiments with truth with Parker PalmerToday we share a wide-ranging conversation with Parker Palmer. From acts of rebellion to the hidden wholeness of the world to the integration of the inner and outer life, as well as teaching and leadership, this conversation is rich in wisdom and hope. We have followed Parker Palmer’s work for literally decades, and are both thrilled and honored to have him on our podcast. This opportunity to get a chance to meet him and reflect with him on the condition of the world right now was a real gift. We are grateful for his work and will continue beating the drum of joining "soul and role" in discovering our hidden wholeness in this corner of the world. Check out The Center for Courage and Renewal or just a few of Parker Palmer's books here: https://couragerenewal.org/wpccr/parker/ (The Center for Courage and Renewal) https://amzn.to/3psQx6d (Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation) https://amzn.to/3y0iqWZ (A Hidden Wholeness: The Journey Toward an Undivided Life) Time Stamps: 3:32--Shelley shares with Parker how his work mentored her when she went through a dark time 6:13--Parker begins his story as to how he started on his academic career, but felt like it wasn't enough 11:35--Shelley asks Parker about the idea of the unfolding of calling 20:20--Walking in the woods is a contemplative exercise 24:39--The idea that it's an act of rebellion to try to show up in the world as a whole person 30:00--The idea that for perspective, the world really does go on without us 35:57--Parker's truer calling was in writing and sharing his ideas rather than activism and what he felt he "ought" to do 39:03--Failure hurts, so it's not easy to separate ourselves from it 46:20--The other thread that runs through this is that you have maintain your inner life 51:29--What's the smallest thing we can do today to move us in our purpose 56:02--Life on the Mobius Strip Leave us a review and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (subscribe on Apple iTunes). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.0 comments0
- What is Big Self?The idea behind the name Big Self is a paradox. We encourage people to do the inner work before they take big leaps, so they know their ladder is leaning on the right wall in the first place, and that they're motivated for the right reasons. Or if they come to us in burnout or crisis, we still begin with inner work, which usually begins with self-awareness training, and personality "hacking." When it comes to the self we want to diffuse the ego so that when we lean into our ambitions and aspirations we do so with authenticity, healthy boundaries, integration, and sustainable purpose. We work with businesses to help them improve their communication and culture. That is why we do have an audience that talks about personality types in order to shortcut the inner growth. We've indexed hard on that this past year. More recently we're hitting on topics like burnout, healthy work culture, shorter workweeks, boundaries, and topics related to the outward manifestation of real change. What we’re talking about today: How the idea for the name came about. The Buddhist idea of the Big Self. How it came to mean aim high but also manage your ego and how you engage with the world. How we focused on burnout at first. How we have come into the Enneagram as a tool for personal growth and development How we are for leaders in the professional world, but we also are getting ready to make offerings for parents and couples Time Stamps: 2:49--Shelley quotes Thomas Merton's "ladder leaning on the wrong wall" verbatim without reading 4:50--Who we are is how we lead 7:45--We have discussed burnout from the beginning and have several experts in forthcoming episodes 9:34--The idea of Big Self as a name 13:27--The different ways you can use the Enneagram 17:05--Parts of ourselves that we own and disown 23:05--Three stages of reactivity 27:27--The brilliance of the Enneagram 30:00--You can use it for spiritual purposes, but if you're uncomfortable with that, you don't have to use it that way Leave us a review and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (subscribe on Apple iTunes). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.0 comments0
- Let's make Thursday the new Friday with Joe SanokOn this week’s episode we speak with Joe Sanok. In 2012 Joe launched Practice of the Practice to blog about what he was learning about business, marketing, and private practice. Since then, his income has gone up over 2,000%. In the beginning, he was making around $1000 per month. In 2015, he grossed over $200k. By 2019, he had sold his private practice. Joe is a keynote and TEDx speaker, business consultant, and podcaster. He has the #1 podcast for counselors, The Practice of the Practice Podcast, which btw is a great podcast for entrepreneurs and solopreneurs as well. Joe is also the author of five books and has been named a top Therapist Resource for his podcast, blogging, and consultant services. His approach incorporates story, humor, research, and practical application. The pandemic has forced conversations about meaningful change at work, and shown us that we can live differently. A remarkable positive consequence of this worldwide lockdown is the experiment it inherently created by everyone abruptly and continuously working from home and making our own schedules. The last year has proven to even the skeptics, that work can be done differently. Will the change be permanent? Or will we, as usual, return to what we know? We’ve been asking this question on several recent episodes. Will we allow the Industrialist mindset to continue to define our week or will we reinvent ourselves and our time? Joe has just released a new book on this very subject, https://amzn.to/3qj1oll (THURSDAY IS THE NEW FRIDAY) is essential reading for anyone in search of both peace and fulfillment. In 2021, that’s very nearly all of us. This book is inspiring and instructive and we are thrilled to have Joe join us for today’s episode. Learn more about Joe here: https://joesanok.com/media/ (https://joesanok.com/media/) https://www.practiceofthepractice.com (https://www.practiceofthepractice.com) Time Stamps: 3:42--The big shift that we're moving away from self-help type of books 7:04--In looking back Joe always got the most done during 4 days and the most important stuff always naturally rises to the surface 9:15--The difference between hard and soft boundaries 11:39--Boundaries are the actions we take to protect our values 15:32--What the Sprint Type is and how it's a helpful measurement for determining how we might work best with our values and boundaries 24:40--Setting expectations and boundaries at home is essential 27:40--The Industrialist mindset and how things have remained the same since 1926 33:36--We're an Enneagram 3 culture 41:00--How teams can work together to establish boundaries together while also maintaining their revenue and productivity 44:50--There are always going to be people who are against this thinking, but let's aim for the middle 48:59--The Big Self Takeaway Leave us a review and https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-big-self-podcast/id1485907203 (subscribe on Apple iTunes). https://open.spotify.com/show/1yx9VzUCRcYezd7cUlSRn4?si=Xygeo5a7T0ePnX7IaHu0AQ (Subscribe on Spotify). Find us at the Big Self Community on Facebook.0 comments0