Conversations with a Friend 🍁

Hello everyone, greetings, greetings, so today, from the stevers of Lobster, I want to bring you

conversations. I had a conversation with the friend previous day, you know, I'm

trying to be careful, this was recording the first time I was doing it, I found it very

fresh, like you're going to know. So yesterday, I had a conversation with a friend, and it

made me confirm this quote that really I own chaplains I own, that is the first, and then

it also made me realize something, everybody is growing, and it's so nice to see people embrace

the fact that yes, I'm not better, yes, I have flaws, but I want to get better, I want to see

a way in which I can grow, a way that I can do things in a much better way, a way to be myself.

Now, we're all the way, probably some of us are in our 20s, some of us are about to enter 20s,

some of us do things, I don't know what age Alice needs to do, I don't know if you're

your 30s, they're about everybody's struggles with wanting or the other, and we've all had doubts

with all of our hard fears, there have been times when we feel like we don't want to go any further,

or I don't even know what I'm doing with my life like, what am I doing wrong, these are questions,

they're the acts, these are the doubts we have, and then sometimes we don't know how we grow past this,

it's easy to say that, oh, I went for therapy or oh, I stopped comparing myself to others,

and see that that's how I was able to get it right, but sometimes it doesn't really work like that,

sometimes I've found out that some of all these things are processes, like it's a guard help process,

only few things happen with the nights, but not they really happen with the nights or in this

nap of a finger, okay they can refer example now, who am I, I'm a very, very positive person,

I have the words to give you when you're down, like none of these really just words,

but also advice, like practical steps that you could take to make things better,

but then when it comes to me taking my own advice, I find it very hard, you know, these all the

things, like I know about, it's not comparing them and all and all boys say it doesn't,

it's not helping me like, almost as though that's not what I want to hear at the moment,

or that's not what I want to know at the moment, I just want to be all right,

and this is coming from somebody who, like, is a very, very positive person, so you see,

but then if I should come down and allow time to pass, like gradually gets into,

you know, this moment of healing, like this period of peace, have you have just just

just so much and they just ready to think and they're actually just off, how do you feel

to introduce this number one, you're very, very lazy, not like releasing the bad way,

boy, lazy type of resting, and until I already have your resting, your mind, you're doing the

things you want to do, if you want to sleep, you're sleeping, if you want to eat your eating,

if you want to watch movie or watching movie, and you don't know that, that is therapeutic,

because it is doing a lot of things, but when you're giving yourself time to heal,

number two, you're giving yourself time to grow, to explore for your mind, to talk into that,

it's childlike, childlike self, it guides that creative self, that way of self, and then when we are

going through time, so when we're having difficulties, we're having doubts, sometimes what

we really, really need is to take some time or take some step away from the hustle and

buzzer, from the crowd, from the noise, and then just be in peace, like have this moment of

soul for the action, not negative self, let's just have a moment where you're doing the things you

love to do, like don't think about what I can do, properly, whether you can do it properly, whether

you can do it properly, anything you want to eat, if you want to eat, if you want to write, you

write, even if you feel like, well, I'm not a good writer or something, something, just be writing.

Even at that, when you give yourself time, and you also feeding yourself for the safety,

let's say, you're not really yourself, you're going through a really tough time, you're trying

to break the habits, and then you don't hear anything from the internet, but you have a book

on it, let's say, for one day, you cannot do anything, for the next day, you can pick up

the book and read, I just know that there's something about giving yourself time, and there's

something about, like, having this state of mind of rest, rest is different from sleeping,

you can sleep in a civil rest, but then when you're in this state of rest, it gives you also

time to heal, the opulsial minds, and it helps you, like, it exposes you to do things, like that,

that thing that I would have told myself not to compare, and my seats and someone else is

putting them at the place of rest, I've like, probably actually compare, and then you see,

what is the difference between these two things? No, but the first one, I saw it,

when there was so much noise in my head, well, the second one, I saw it, when I was in the

place of rest, now it's surely surely there, exceptions to everything, but that's not what I'm going

to go into right now, so that was one thing I just noticed from the entire conversation was that

there was just these groups, groups on my parts and on his parts, and then if I let away somebody

overcomes, should I borrow his words, like, misery, he's going to really sound weird, but if there was

no misery, if there was so struggle, if there was no strife in life, their life will not have

despise it has, and I think it's the same for somebody, but there are some truths to it,

in as much as we want to avoid a life of strife, and definitely that's the world believing,

but still, we cannot deny the fact that where you rise from a challenge, there is this

sweet taste in your mouth, and there is this, there's just something, there's this

sheep's from the personality in your mind said, and it just become a lot more down to earth

in a matured way, is a matured does, that's matured, it's just something, and that was what

challenges brought, now definitely we're going to challenge this, it's not sweet, sometimes it's

really, really tough, it's really, really difficult, it's just like passing through, passing through fire,

once isn't fire, it's not enjoying it, it's not dancing, how we love it, definitely not, it's been

heated, it's been melted, it's been melted, it's been washed off, for that's the thing, the

impurities are being washed off, because if it wasn't been melted, if it didn't pass through

that fire, that impurity would have become a part of it, like, it even breathing part of the

gold, which is not supposed to be, but sure that it's in true that melting, it helps the gold

be what it truly is, gold without the purity, the same thing can be applied to us,

so when you're going, when you're going to challenge this, just take some time off,

and get your heads together, try on yourself with positivity bro, where that is also

sunny like noise, they just take some time off from the noise, sleep, do something else,

admit it, it's like just takes some time walk at night, think, think about yourself,

not in the negative, in the positive room, so that's when, growths, hundred growths,

fats, then furthermore, furthermore, I, some of another thing that

that really stood out to me, because we're also conversing about opportunities, sharing

opportunities with your friend and all, now there's some times when you share some

opportunities with your friends, or probably your connection, and then somebody does

so well from that, definitely you're happy for them, but then this is the

thing of what did I do, like, and okay, there's this thing of, ah, like, I do not get these,

sometimes, okay, let me use this example now, you have your voice over,

like, like voice over, as is, people who, who record ads, now let's say ads, I

use this picture, people who do their voice over, you, but you and your friend, like,

in your power, it's about ads, it's something, you see this opportunity, it's your friend,

now you put go for the audition, and your friend is selected, and you're not selected,

sometimes you may feel bad, like, no, that you're happy, no, that you're not happy for your

friend, definitely you're happy for them, you're a choice for them, but like, sometimes you may

feel bad, sometimes you may feel pain, because it's just human nature, like, you might just

really feel pain, and that's who we are, but then, should that stop you from sharing

opportunities in your friend, no, she doesn't make you end with somebody else, definitely

not, the thing is that, at first, yes, who be like, that boy is going to

go through points where you're comfortable with, sharing everything, even if your friend

is succeeding, like, they no longer any pain, you have, because you know, everybody has

their own journey, and everybody has their own pace, I'm going to see this once more,

if everybody builds a skyscraper who is going to build amazing residential houses,

I mean, their houses are sold for a million and going higher, even the billion and so much more,

houses that people like the President leave me, you think it's going to be a small house,

but that's to show you that everybody has their own journey, everybody has their own path,

just some people are supposed to be very, very fast, and just some people who, what was all that

thing he said, if probably just some people that you needed to have mates at a certain level,

now, if everybody was going at the same pace, those are supposed to help, the

particular level you, and you might miss them, or you might not help them, and it's just

leading to a spiral of nothingness, because, you know, like, the things you're learning, the

tissue growing from, you know, passing it on, you know, passing it on, so that people, and that

can be really, really sad, like, you know, so that can be really, really sad. So back to the chain,

opportunities of the team, so you have to get to the point where you're comfortable, you're

sharing opportunities, you're afraid, like, don't try to hold the internship to see them as

a composition, because as you're sharing those things, you're building the quality of your

next work. Like, somebody who asks you, oh, who is your friend? Okay, oh, I want to see,

hello, I can internet this way, and be like, oh, I have a friend there, I think she's the

associate, let me just put the call across her, I know you're taking in intents, that's a

connection, there's somebody comes up like, I want to go to your host, what's about

an opportunity to go somewhere, I'm hoping to see an optimist, like, oh, I have somebody in the

medical field, I think I can't connect you with the doctor, who is in charge of the optimist

team for you, why, how do I, I would build this level of connection, because you are sharing

opportunities, you are not growing alone, you are not holding it or something, you also

helping them, all of you are growing together, it's so amazing when everybody can't go

in the cruise, and this is bringing these vessels, bringing that, and you're like, do you know

this festival, yes, I know that this is my friend, that's because you build the quality of your

next work, but not just, you know, it's not for us, sometimes, actually for you to

have a friend's group, why still not everybody's groups, still lies primary and ultimately

with them, but really, get the points where you're comfortable sharing something, I think

I'm going to read out a poem, right, a poem from somebody and that, that one really

will use stroke so deep, it really really struck the, but if I go into it, I think I'm going to

do a little interlead, if I go into it, but just before that, then, okay, that was it, it's a caution

on sharing opportunities with friends, now finally, he can't be an idol, like those just

in a university, in a university, in a university, in the metaverse, and if these,

not just, yeah, I can't break into the sector and work there as, as an ADF, as

I said, these three resolutions, special these, and this is what this year, we can be a key

player in the field in the future research ways, that one I was talking about, it's also something

like something that was so high in the air, and I wanted to, like, I really wanted to, because

because actually, actually, when I also started out, it's also so up there, and I'm like,

I want to understand what you see, I want to draw such a save by just, it just floats in

bright night hours, it sets only, it sets only, so he gave me an A test right at the

answer to me, now that's in brilliant ADF, now imagine if, now imagine if this type of mentality

was there, oh, I want to hold my good ideas, I want to hold my opportunities, I want to hold

the amazing things that I can think about, and that he doesn't see that, probably,

um, okay, that's fine and good, probably if he doesn't see it, I might still find the

idea from someone else, when I'll see the difference, I got this idea from him, if I have

a better idea, I can give him, I'm going to give him, like, I'm going to tell him about it,

in future, if I see a new opportunity, I can't bring to him anywhere, I can assist him,

I'm going to be more willing to do this for him, because he was able to, at least,

willing enough to share a good idea, he had, like, a good touch, a good analysis,

a good, it could be anything really, it could really be anything, it wasn't really

me, that's an analysis, it wasn't really that so opportunity, sometimes, I don't see it, I have a clean hand,

listening to it, somebody who is just there, all those little things that you think don't really mean

much, it really matters a lot. Now look at this holding mentality as opposed to the given mentality,

there is this why they say give us never luck, because as you're given, you become a channel,

and you know what channels are, it means that, okay, I want this resources to get to,

let's just say you're the ambassador of Nigeria now, so in a place like the UK,

in a place like UK, I want to get this resources to Nigeria, who do you think you're going to go

through, the ambassador, right? This resources are going through, you are benefiting from it,

as well, while students, they need to need to do this, who you're doing things, now see the

difference, now, these things are going to give you the opportunity, that connection that you had,

so if you ever give them this opportunity, they don't have it, but you know the person who

is bringing these opportunities, that's like an other advantage, then they could bloom more things,

because this is the person who didn't know, this is the person that, this is a channel, like,

you just get more blessings by being in means to reach other person's happiness,

so it's like, because I want you to give to this person, you know, if you're going to

lacking your life, and that's what we really don't understand, like, they are really

principles that I dislike, one is really the principle of keeping, give us never luck,

the matter how much I want to argue, it's matter how much I want to say, hey,

I don't give my last five, no, no, I don't give anything to the job,

did you ask, I didn't find any things, it's even technology, but it's something,

so that, that's is that, and it wasn't the money, you can really give anything, your time,

your attention, your ideas, your analysis, it's as vast as the ocean, the things you can give,

as vast as the ocean, so the give, and the sheer opportunities, at first, there are some things

that can be built, and then this thing, if you look coming from a place of comparison,

a place of doubt, a place of fears, and it's normal, like, really, it's normal with teenagers,

and Ellie, people in the entertainment, people in the entertainment, people in the entertainment

it's just like, just with that, because you're still trying to figure out life, your

inch, you're, you're an adult, you're trying to learn how to do these adults in thin, very well,

and yes, it can really smooth away, I mean, it can really seem so somehow, and then,

all these thoughts are creeping in, because once you bring a fat out ground for negativity,

we start to sprouts, how others are good, okay, where you live, what are logged in it, please,

like, where they say, start to announce what are, it gives opportunities for, is it how

they call it, I think it's okay, it gives opportunities for algae, to grow, what's that,

that green green things, so I said, if there was no stagnant, what are those green things,

let's have a good one, right, so keep your mind clear, once your mind is clear, you know,

even think it's high, so I changed the opportunity, so I got to go on a little interlude

before I read out, before I read out that poetry, that poetry, that poetry,

I don't know how long I'm going to meet this, policy,

hey just like, continue, just like, continue, therefore, I was also find out,

are the insolutes, some others are not others, because of something, like something happened

that's in the last episode.

I met a post l, I think I was we were in the sea.

I met a post l, I didn't met the post litanights.

So, I thought, I will publish it.

I was looking at what the last episode.

I was looking at what I was on the way to the circuit.

See, I listened to the wonders and I met the present of the energy.

I said, listen to it to the end.

It also suits the ADN and it's like, oh, so this thing I did like on that is

It went and came on that, everybody that's a fresh episode will just come on down on that one

So how is it? How is it? I would know that you can actually break your

Episodes, I can't add interludes, what anything you want to add?

I think I figured out what to do

I just figured out how it's from that first, and that's what she did in the beginning of the end

I was like, if I should know if I find out the words are the ones for some words add it. I might add some of the time

I might just leave it until the end, this is like any of the same words I'll say

I just did it right there, because I never got a nice, like a fresh, just a fresh one

Okay, so now we're going to look for the poetry, bye bye

Hello, one small, okay, so this is the poem, and I don't pronounce this properly, please get it to me

The title of the poem is, there's the Rata by Max Airman

So you can find this, I'm going to upload it on my Pinterest, look for the board, code, words

I'm going to put, I'm going to test it there, it has a brown background, brown black phones

Detitly, there's the Rata by Max Airman, and I'm going to read it out so if you see it,

you're also going to know that that's the poem and talking about

So this poem is basically the summary of practically what I'm trying to say in this

Compensation Suite, something amazing, it's now, there's the Rata

Go plus it leave, admit the noise and heist, and remember what piece the MEP in silence, as far

as possible, without surrender, beyond good terms with all persons, speak your truths, quietly, and clearly,

and listen to others, even to the dull and to the ignorant, they too have your story, avoid loud

and aggressive persons, they have vex issues to the spirits, if you compare yourself with others,

you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself

Enjoy your achievements, as well as your plans, keep interested in your own career,

however humble, it is a real position in the changing fortunes of time,

Exercise cautioning your business affairs for the world is full of trickery,

but let this not blind you to what virtue there is, many persons strive for high ideals

and every way life is full of heroism, be yourself, especially do not think affection,

need a be cynical about luck, for in the face of all our reality and disenchantments,

it is as perennial as the grass, take kindly to the councils of the years,

gracefully surrendering the sins of the youth, not just strengths of spirits, to shield you in

sudden misfunction, but do not distrust yourself with that imagines, many fears are born of fatigue

and loneliness, beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself, you are each out of the

universe, no less on the trees and the stars, you have a right here, and whether or not it is

a split you, no doubts the universe is unfolding as it should, therefore be at peace with God,

whatever you conceive him to be, and whatever your labor and aspirations in the noisy

confusion of life, keep peace in your soul, with all his sham, drudgery and broken dreams,

it is still a beautiful world, be cheerful, strives we happy, and as the end of the world,

like I said you can find it on my Pinterest and the board code words that I am going to post it,

my Pinterest, you can search, love you, or Pinterest, I am going to find me, or that global

moment, I also wrote it at the introduction of this very podcast, so you are going to see

the as well, that means it's really, really amazing, I love the way he makes simple words

and really really, what should I call it, it's high words, I feel like using high words doesn't

do justice to it, but he made use of, I really don't know what's the sentence, but he made use of words

that are the glimpses for the later big words, he makes it simple, and it's just flowing

seamlessly, I believe there are some rinds, kings there, and there are two bits of wisdom,

there are points that he destroys, and I don't know how long it's akin to write that poem,

but that poem is as precious as good, because it's like it has a whole level of

truth to it, and it has a whole level of the whole level of peace and understanding to it,

it is an advice as well as a cancer, it is also something to help calm you down as well as for you

of, it is something to help you know that you are not like, you are not missing, you are not

not supposed to be interested, you reflect, you are supposed to be here, and then you must

watch it, you just do what you want to do, the said dream sets of rules on discipline, so like, he made

sure to cover the base, it's was to give you the rule, there will surely be less, and there will surely

be greater than you, so don't be vain or don't be in and don't be in grief, since the sentence

compares, like don't compare, it's like, remember, you're looking at someone, and you're thinking

you're better than the male, you do some fun, it's like being fine, or you could look and think

yourself small, and I could lead you to grief, so it's just a really, really whole, some poetry,

that covers the basis, you know, trust for them, they here, I did work very, very beautifully to

be, I guess for eight days, but for me, really, trust for them, he's a creator of the universe,

a perfect design, does like, has a perfect design, and in a world that was created

to house people with minds, we definitely have a creator with mind, such as God and just

be who, some know what you're doing, and show that you cover your pieces, why singing

yourself grace, why singing yourself who, here's a mention, something about inspiration,

I don't know, I think I'm going to take some time to really meditate on this poem and see if

I can break it down, book based, both on how it appears to me, and how it applies to me,

and then what I can understand from me, it's probably what I've grabbed, it's moved from

observations, and may do that, I may know to that, but I think I'm going to do that and do an entire

episode on this, so that's the poem, after you, I can find it, and that just needs for this

the conversation I had a friend, I had a lucky one to mention to me, but I think I'm just

going to post it right now, because the funny thing is that I'm making this podcast to talk about

my observations, but if you're like I'm talking to an artist, like you understand, I know that I'm

really different, so I also had a mother, or that we're going to listen to it, so I guess I'm

still trying to balance between, I'm actually sharing my life, to the whole world, and also

balance between, it's been like a kind of personal space to me, in case we're

able to share my wings and challenges for the, it's my observation, I dare, like, I

wish my studies and my observations, it's not like I'm showing everything on my life,

definitely not, just basically my observations and things, I feel like, surely just

you things are very, very private to me, that you might not even begin to imagine, but

let's see where it is, cool, let's see how I end up balancing it out, but for now, you

listen to this, if you got to this point, I personally very, very sure this segment

is much belong, just a little bit more, but thank you so much for getting to this point, I

thank you so much for listening, and so I have a lovely day from it, so I'm going to add a little

more gel area to make it to my episode, because what's all this serious weight? I'm not

a serious person, but I'm also somebody who really loves to play, it's a joke, a lot of

sarcastic, I come to you, I come just all shades of amazingness, so why am I

all issuing to suicide? We're going to work on it, hopefully now, add your say, monamicos.