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Paul Colaianni

Love and Abuse

Helping you identify toxic communication, emotional abuse, manipulation, and other forms of bad behavior in relationships. Love and Abuse gives you the perspective of both the victim and the perpetrator. Full of tips and advice for your friendships, family, love life, and marriage. You'll learn about covert abusive communication that takes away your power. And you'll discover how to pinpoint the specific toxic behaviors, such as narcissistic abuse and verbal abuse, before you are dragged into a game so deep you come out a shell of your former self. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook, an assessment and healing guide to help you evaluate the emotionally abusive and manipulative patterns in your relationship. Get the guide that will tell you exactly what's happening in your relationship over at loveandabuse.com. Transcripts available upon request: https://loveandabuse.com/contact/

Aross0505

September 1, 2022

Can’t thank you enough

For the past three years, I’ve been in an abusive relationship with a person who suffers from addiction and comes from a chauvinistic culture. I have a tendency to be overly compassionate to the point I end up desperately trying to understand the other persons feelings while neglecting my own. This podcast brought me a tremendous amount of clarity during times I felt in the dark. There have been many, many times I felt I had no one to go to and have had to suffer in silence. During those times, I would turn to this podcast and the knowledge you shared validated my feelings when my ex would make me feel bad, guilty and/or confused. I finally left my toxic relationship a few days ago and this podcast is the #1 source that is helping me emotionally / mentally pull through and stay strong / certain in my decision. I’m immensely grateful for your work, time and effort you generously dedicate to helping people like me who’ve been suffering in abusive relationships and feel alone. I can’t possibly describe in words how much you’ve helped me and will continue to. What you do here matters. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. You’ve been my guiding light.

Nikki-Remake

August 22, 2022

This is Amazing!!!

This is the best thing I have ever come across! When your in the middle of the tornado, sometimes you think your crazy and can’t articulate your feelings. This podcast has helped me so much and I can’t ever recommend it enough!! His voice is smoothing and just what I needed. Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!💓

Steph__F

August 7, 2022

An absolute MUST-listen!

This podcast was what finally gave me the ability to understand exactly what was happening to me in my toxic relationship with an extremely manipulative narcissist, to explain what I was experiencing to other people, and to finally get out of the emotionally, verbally, and physically abusive relationship. PLEASE listen to this if you feel in any way that you are in an unhealthy relationship. I say this all as someone who those that know me would describe as strong, intelligent, educated, successful, and independent… and I still got stuck in the trap. It can happen to anyone and you are not crazy or alone. This podcast saved me from going further down a terrible path.

thisishardbskicbwks

May 31, 2022

Keeps me sane

I love this podcast. I am 24 and in my first serious relationship. Listening on a regular basis keeps me aware of how I and my SO show up in our relationship. Both of us were raised by emotional abusive parents which makes it very easy to let those behaviors slide. Listening to this podcast helps me understand what is normal and where to draw the line. I encourage all to listen!

kleclair101

March 2, 2022

Maybe need to listen more, but . . .

After listening for 30 minutes I just couldn’t listen any more. I wondered if this guy, who I am sure has something to offer, had any kind of professional training in counseling - couldn’t find any info that he does. The advice felt so wishy washy and he contradicted himself so often. He also gave some very questionable advice, in my opinion. There is also a lot of rambling and repeating. I really wanted to like it, but it fell very short of what I was hoping for.

Tootoon00

February 15, 2022

Learning so much

Really appreciate this podcast. I am learning so much about myself and my partner and how we come to the relationship. Thank you

kreebby

February 3, 2022

Useful, but prone to filler

The good: the host is very good at describing things in a way that authenticate both perspectives without demonizing those who may fall into “toxic” behaviors. Things that are suggested to be done instead are usually helpful and insightful. The best episodes are the 18-25 minute ones. The bad: he repeats himself a lot and talks in circles without focus. Most episodes over 25 minutes take forever to get to the point and waste your time with lots of anecdotes and saying the same thing ten different ways. The host is not a psychological counselor but heavily pushes his “course/workbook.” The episodes should be shorter—because the shorter ones are great—and more focused. The lack of professional guests is concerning.

kellols

February 1, 2022

Enlightening and refreshing !

Paul is an unsung hero and has helped me exponentially in my personal and professional life. Thank you Paul !

Nurse_Erin

January 14, 2022

Can I get a transcript?

Is there a way to request transcripts of shows!

ikkin4321

January 11, 2022

A Must Listen

I just came across your podcast this morning, and by 5 at night I’ve had to have listened to over 10 of them. Not only is this podcast informative and calming, but it is outright inspirational and reminds us that humanity, at its core, is good. This podcast is so wholesome, when the world is in such a struggle, and it’s so important to listen to all of this. Thank you for making this podcast for EVERYONE, since everyone should be listening. <3

Evacharles

August 28, 2021

Isolation episode

I am working my way through your episodes from the beginning after a friend told me about your podcast. I was skeptical at first, as I am with all resources on abuse because there are so many bad ones out there, but so much of what you say has validated my experience of abuse. When I got to #19 about isolation I had to post my first ever review of a podcast. Thank you for speaking to the “kind” isolation that is so covert that it can go on forever unnoticed. It wasn’t until he overtly said he didn’t like me on social media taking other people’s advice over his that I realized he had been isolating me “kindly” for many years.

Lisdreizen

August 19, 2021

I am rendered speechless

In all my life I have never heard an individual so clearly, efficiently and capably address all of the most salient and continually inexplicable challenges in all human relationships…With a degree in psychology, and years of life experience under my belt, it perplexes me how I could’ve gotten through life one more day without having This unique (and incredibly mellifluous) compendium of information, brilliant insights, applicable strategies , and exceptional inspiration as generated by this obvious genius regarding the “great human effort“ of relationships, and more importantly, of the self.

MR And Tye Fan

July 31, 2021

Powerful Messages

Please keep doing what you are doing Paul!!! Thank you!!!!!

Mayatyre02

July 18, 2021

THANK YOU!

you have truly opened my eyes to my situation that i am currently going through and it’s helped me learn how to approach him in a healthier way. thank you so much paul you have really helped me a lot.

moonnaz

June 23, 2021

Just amazing!!

Paul I love you so much you’ve helped me a lot and I just don’t know how to thank you enough <3 :)

Guy Zipp

June 8, 2021

Perfect Timing

I’m really grateful to have found this podcast, as well as the Overwhelmed Brain. Paul is honest and it’s good to hear someone that talks about how they changed and what helped them change. He doesn’t pretend to be perfect. He acknowledges his past flaws. It’s very insightful.

Former flat squirrel

June 2, 2021

Empowering and helpful

I’ve been listening to Love and Abuse and as well as the Overwhelmed Brain for a couple months now. I love Paul’s style and his capability of hitting home on so many levels of emotional abuse on both sides. He gives you straight easily retainable verbiage to use within your own relationships that I have found the courage to try out for myself with some success. He is humble, and has a kind gentle way with his words. This is by far the most helpful self-help podcast(s) I’ve ever listened to. Thank you Paul for sharing your insights and helping me. I’ve already passed on several of your episodes to friends who are also struggling. I look forward to listening to all of your previous podcasts and more in the future. Keep them coming! Sincerely, P.E.

Jinna B 123

May 20, 2021

Great podcast

Paul has a soothing, calming voice and the content is very useful and unbiased. Highly recommend this podcast .

Powerful Eric

May 13, 2021

Original and much needed!

Paul, has a soothing voice and covers a tough topic with wisdom and caring. Thanks for making this podcast. If you are experiencing abuse or think you may being abuse then this is the show for you. Also, this show will help you avoid abusive relationships. A+

aimhal

April 26, 2021

Helped me so much!

I started listening to Love and Abuse shortly after I broke up with my toxic/emotionally abusive bf. I’ve learned so much about everything that happened through this podcast. Starting from the top where I was love bombed, and kind of manipulated till the end where I couldn’t tolerate any more bad behavior. This podcast and the overwhelmed brain really helped me learn and heal from that toxicity, so that I can be my best self. I’ve also recommended it to friends and family who are in toxic relationships so that they can find some clarity around the dysfunction they’re in. Thank you, Paul and keep up the great work.

Salma3107*

April 25, 2021

Thank you Paul

I am going through a difficult time (divorce) and you have helped me tremendously, I listen to you podcast every day when I walk my dog, I find your comments sincere and straight forward, you don’t need a PhD, although you are very professional so don’t listen to negative comments “haters will be haters” you show your humanity, when you share your own experiences like a true friend would do. Thank you for helping to improve my self steam and take better decisions to choose my battles wisely. Gracias.

e_a_b1983

April 19, 2021

Hope

I stumbled upon Love & Abuse a few weeks after I learned my husband was sharing intimate photos of me on the internet. He was doing this while away on vacation with friends and he never came back. Ive not spoken with nor seen him since... nothing. With Paul’s help, I was able to slowly, painfully and fully understand what emotional abuse is and how utterly devastating the effects have been on me. Eight months later and I am on the path of recovering from the traumas of emotional, physical, sexual, financial, verbal and psychological abuse. There is a lot of healing, self reflection and growth still to do (a lifetime no doubt) and I am actually excited to do the work, to get my hands dirty, and to fully embrace a true me. Thank you Paul for your service - I am a survivor and the tools I’ve acquired from you are essentials in my survivors toolkit.

tonyna80

February 25, 2021

Thank you for the host for the amazing content with a lot of useful info and tips!

This podcast is my biggest support in understanding emotional and psychological abuse and what can I do about it to protect myself and keep in my power

kayferguson13

December 23, 2020

Get to the point!

You waste so much time talking about yourself & giving side stories you don’t get to the point until minutes upon minutes into the podcast. I fast forwarded so many times. These type topics are too important to be handled in this way. You also say the same thing over & over, it sounds preachy & you beat down a topic. I can’t see you as a doctor because there’d much more depth behind the topic. The whys, hows, whats or how to handle it - much more clinical & less emotional. I’m sorry but when I tune into something I don’t care about the hosts feelings or their day. The show isn’t called “Lets Talk About The Host’s Feelings”. I’m still listening to an episode as I type this you’ve literally said the same thing at least 30 times.....

Sadittarius

December 9, 2020

Have you ever noticed...

Have you ever noticed how this guy reads “letters” from “listeners” and those always contain over the top flattery of the host?

Gr8full1!

November 15, 2020

Amazingly Helpful

This podcast contains life-saving information. So good!

Ebone99

November 4, 2020

So grateful!

Thank you for just being so real and upfront with your topics. I found you when I was getting high and I related to every word you said, well spoken and I will listen on. Thank you.

Kate Laine

September 24, 2020

Compassionate Support and Guidance

I discovered this podcast when I was trying to separate from my ex-husband last year. There were so many times I just wanted to listen to these episodes over and over because I felt like Paul was speaking directly to me about warning signs, triggers, manipulation, gaslighting, narcissistic behaviors, and other experiences of being in an emotionally abusive relationship. So much of this was difficult for me to see until it was explained so thoroughly. Such an interesting perspective that he comes at this from the point of view of the former abuser, so there is also a lot of insight there. Paul, thanks for your humility and bringing this healing to so many of us. I can tell you that your podcast gave me great strength to finally leave my marriage last year, and though it has been tough, and I feel still in recovery, I am so happy to feel free and myself again. If you are interested I also have my own podcast called Restorya about rewriting our own stories, working through trauma and transformational healing. Thanks again! Kate

Habladulce

August 14, 2020

Gaslighting

Your words could not be more fitting for the elements of toxic relationship. You captured all the dynamics spot on. Almost like movie...a horror film in real life- thank you for such validation that now I am fully empowered make sure this ending sticks and I can move on with a great rest of my life. Thank you!

10 bagger

July 24, 2020

Interesting Perspective

This is a terrific podcast from the perspective of the abuser. He gives a comprehensive explanation of all forms of abuse including red flags, warning signs and what to do about it. It’s been my experience with social predators, that they can not nor will not change. Once you spot the red flags of abuse as they push your boundaries, get out. Stay out. And don’t look back.

Musicminded75

July 3, 2020

Nail on the Head!

Life changing information for anyone that has experienced narcissistic abuse, or is questioning the “less than empathetic” behavior someone close. Thank you, sir, for validating the 8 years of downward trending facts this relationship has provided. The struggle continues, but you’ve provided the light.

harry123446

July 3, 2020

Trying to change

Paul thank you for all you’ve shared and taught. I am currently trying to overcome my controlling pattern and over distrust for people around me. Namely my wife. We have come to a cross road and I don’t know what will happen but I need to change this more me. I loved “because I was treated this way doesn’t give me the right to treat others this way”. Rang so true. Thanks again

Aschlice

June 27, 2020

Vital Relationship Education

This information in this podcast is spot on! I wish I had been educated on abusive and manipulative communication before I picked a husband. I have 10 years of experience with a covert narcissist. Getting out was the most difficult thing I’ve ever done. Now I can look back and understand what was happening because I’m listening to podcasts like this one.

sdkhillie

June 26, 2020

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

The podcasts been so helpful. Thank you so much. I’m grateful.

HSCounselor10

June 3, 2020

Life changing!

I only listened to one episode of this guy, but it changed my life. Because I am seriously guilty of judging my significant other and worry that it will kill the relationship, I searched relationship and judgment, and this came up. There were some serious truth bombs dropped, and I have a lot to think about. Great content, applicable, realistic and packed with important info that you need to hear if you want to change your life for the better. Would love to hear more podcasts on judgment!!!

Kitacharlotte

April 12, 2020

Thanks

I just read a 2014 article about judgement. You’ve changed my life...Subscribed

Immeyooo

April 3, 2020

Thank you

Just....thank you. I NEEDED to find this. I truly appreciate and love all of your episodes. Again, thank you ❤️

gajetgrl

March 19, 2020

WOW!

I have spent a great amount of time feeling as though I was adrift from common sense and that had lost my mind. Apparently I am not alone with this feeling and now that I am ploughing my way through this podcast and the “the overwhelmed brain” I feel as though I have been validated. It has been a rocky ride the last few years and the journey ahead will probably prove to be challenging and informative. I am looking forward to changing some of my behavior so that I learn how to value myself when challenged- my problem has always been how to do that but not lose it when the inevitable putdown happens.

mettaminx

March 17, 2020

Thank You - Beyond Helpful

Paul speaks with such insight and clarity - has absolutely helped accelerate healing, provide a path forward and move past and actually achieve the healing result you want to achieve. Wow.

Anna-Peeps

March 8, 2020

Beyond Helpful

I’ve listened to every show. I can honestly take something from them all. I’ve even written in and had my serious relationship concerns addressed on the show. I genuinely appreciate his insight and opinion. I’m growing and there’s always something to gain in listening to this podcast. The MEAN workbook was a terrifying wake up call to my life. I’m grateful I found this and could open my eyes to it.

A_P_D8

February 27, 2020

Wonderful!

Thank You so much for this!! It has helped me immensely and carried me through the difficult days.

Sydney78!

February 1, 2020

Excellent Comforting. life changing

Thank you for your insights, honesty and comforting voice that has helped me survive and separate from an emotionally abusive marriage. You’re literally my lifeline right now. This tired momma needs your reassurance and calm way of helping to understand people’s hurtful behavior and my own worth. I can’t wait for the next episode every time I listen.

1TntGigi

January 17, 2020

Wow

I am hearing my life played out over this podcast. Scary, emotional & hard but giving me such clarity. Thank you

InspiredChefInProgress

January 13, 2020

Thank You So Much

I am a listener from the overwhelmed brain. This podcast dove deep into places I never allowed myself to tap into emotionally. Extremely emotional but so enlightening.

ninja1790

January 9, 2020

Wow

I cried thru the entire episode of number 30. Thanks so much for this podcast.

Talieo34

December 26, 2019

I love your show but

I love your podcast, however, at times I feel like the message could be a little bit more focused and direct, you have great information but it can get loss in translation with a lengthy podcast. Stay focused and deliver your message in a constructive manner and you will continue to be as awesome as always. Please don’t take this as a put down. Wishing you all the best in 2019. Peace

leemisch

November 21, 2019

Thank you Paul !!!! 😔

Wow .... I’ve been in emotional abusive, mental, physical and financial abusi e relationships my entire life. I am 52 years old married three times one was more of a manipulator than the other. They all ended in very traumatic ways. I’ve been single for 3+ years and I finally finally thought I met a decent man. I was getting to know him via text messages and phone calls. We met after two weeks. And three weeks later he’s gone!!! He would tell me three times a day that he loved me. That we were so far emotionally advanced because we were being so honest with each other and being real. Paul honestly I was completely honest and loving. I really liked him and I thought he was sincere. I thought I could pick a narcissist out immediately after dealing with them for so long. Wow this last man was good. The only good news was I did see the red flags I would question his behavior and his violent tendencies. His background should have been a huge red flag but rather I felt so bad that he spent 14 years in prison. Plus his mother was mauled and killed by a Bull when he was 4 years old. The second day we started talking he told me these things and my heart just poured out for him. I told him this and I was crying because of his life. I think it was at that moment he knew I was “a sucker” and he totally deceived me for about 6 weeks. I’ve been struggling to heal because this relationship opened up some old wounds but more than anything else I’m so angry at myself for trusting him so quickly and believing he was sincere. I stayed single for over 3 years and my first time back I got hit with this. I’m pretty broken up over this. I really wanted a wonderful relationship and that’s what he promised me. Anyway I’ve been binge listening to both of your podcasts just to get through this. Thank you Paul. Sincerely, Lisa Anne Shapiro

sbordeaux

October 16, 2019

Red Flags

I really like the Podcast. I feel my marriage was emotionally abusive with someone who only saw me as the problem. The only thing I wish this episode gave was specific examples of the red flags. Paul you kept saying “look out for the red flags, recognize the first one” but I would have like to be given more examples of the red flags and what they could be.

trulygratefulforyourhelp

September 27, 2019

Remarkable

Thank you for these astounding episodes. So helpful- spot on insight!

lilydog1974

September 20, 2019

Emotional Turmoil

Unfortunately, I married into emotional abuse. I’m 45, mother of three. My oldest daughter (22) observing our country as in Operational Intelligence, middle daughter (19) is a full time college student working two jobs and very self sufficient, my son (12) is a great kid and honor roll recipient every semester. My children are from my first marriage of 18 years and he was physically abusive. This is my second marriage that has been nothing but judging upon my children and attacks of my character. He had a sexting affair 6 months into our marriage but consistently accuses me of cheating. He consistently takes facts from situations and totally twists them into fictitious accusations. He hangs his hat on me being a”poser, liar and cheater”. I’m a Registered Nurse which means my days may run a couple of hours past my shift. Ofcourse, I’m not really working, I’m cheating in his eyes. We haven’t slept in the same bed for months because he claims I’m cheating. He has pretty much emotionally divorced me but continues to text me when I have dinner with a girlfriend (yes, I’ve finally started spending time with some girlfriends from Work) and inquires where we are and who I’m with. With all that being said, I look back and see that I’ve been wearing rose colored glasses for 5 years. I was only seeing those good things he would throw me every now and then and I retained that for hope. I e felt sorry for his insecurities and felt I needed to put more of me into the marriage. I do not have anymore to give and I’m becoming bitter! He’s a Charming, funny, nice looking guy that everyone loves but his family knows that his previous 5 relationships were a clone of the same treatment. I am Presently working on taking myself out of the equation. I’m opting out. Staying certainly doesn’t change anything so why continue to traumatize myself. Thank you for such eye opening podcasts that have really opened my eyes to finding “me” again!

doglover1713

August 10, 2019

Thank you.

This podcast has shed so much light on things I know I feel, but couldn’t quite figure it out on my own. I have related to every single topic spoken on these episodes, and it makes me cry, and makes me realize so many things I could never really grasp before. I have a better understanding of emotional abuse, and I don’t feel crazy or alone anymore.

snap-kaitlynshere12

July 30, 2019

If you date then...

If you are someone who dates or is getting into dating again then you need to listen to this podcast! I was in abusive relationship in every way. This podcast helped me realize that I wasn’t the one with the problem.. and it helped me me on how to talk to my abuser and get out of it!

ShaunaMom1

July 3, 2019

Thank you!

If your a human that gets into relationships, you NEED to listen. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for 13 years. I was left feeling like a shell of my former self. I was just listening and remembered times that he would use religion against me and ask if Jesus would be happy with my “behavior”. I found this podcast after listening to The Overwhelmed Brain. I have been trying to unravel what happened, this podcast has helped me SO much.

Magnolia Sugar

April 19, 2019

I’m not alone

I’m going through everything what Paul discussed in this episode. A biopolar relationship, up and down, with a person who yells and says mean things to me. I’m now trying to put boundaries for this type of behavior. And I’m exhausted. It feels like a battlefield sometimes. I love him and it just makes me sad that I’m at this point. I listened to the whole episode calmly till at the end I heard Paul say you are not alone and you are not going crazy. It made me cry.

horrornerd89

March 22, 2019

Amazing advice

I have always been stubborn about not listening to podcasts. My partner felt that it would help me/us in so many ways and suggested Paul. I should have listened to her, months ago. He offers the most amazing advice and breaks things down in a way that hits home and makes perfect sense.

LOBO!oso88

March 6, 2019

Grateful for the information.

Truly, thank you for helping me to identify and understand. You correlate the issues very well.

DarraeH

March 4, 2019

So excited to listen!

I JUST found this new podcast! So excited to listen! Thank GOD for Paul Colaianni ! He’s pioneering this much needed area , so much hidden abuse with few who ‘get it’ ... His first podcast the Overwhelmed Brain kept me sane and he literally helped me realize I should and could escape with my children from a potentially deadly covertly abusive marriage. Realizing it wouldn’t ‘get better’ and seeing this was due to my ex’s unchangeable personality disorder and losing myself to the abuse has been the hardest most devastating experience in my life. Thank You Paul , May God Bless you for the care and very helpful much needed info you share with an underrepresented population of those of us who are or have been victims of this crippling ( but nearly undetectable to those outside the relationship! ) abuse. You’re truly an angel of mercy to many. Thank you on behalf of my children and myself!

Ggs2017

February 28, 2019

Great Resource to Understand Emotional Abuse

I followed Paul from The Overwhelmed Brain podcast. I just listened to the episode about how predators prime victims for emotional abuse. It’s unfortunate that oftentimes we don’t see emotional abuse until after we are already in it, or possibly in hindsight after we have left the abusive relationship. This podcast teaches the warning signs to help us steer clear of emotionally abusive behaviors going forward.

pickleb68

February 23, 2019

Thanks Paul

I always loved The Overwhelmed Brain podcast which he also does. This podcast is really really helpful to me. Having lived with a toxic person for years I never understood why I always felt so upset and muted by this person. Now that I know the game, I can see it clearly and plan accordingly. I no longer feel like I’m hitting my head against the wall looking for answers and trying to fix this relationship. I’m investing my energy in an exit strategy