How to Be Human is a guide to exploring the common and often confusing themes of humanness including spirituality, connection, wellness, self-acceptance, and more. Host, Anna Toonk, uses humor, honesty, and intuition to discuss the unanswerable questions we all share. Join Anna as she searches for clarity in the most human way possible; together.
38 Subscribers
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- AnnaToonk
@AnnaToonk
© 2021 How to Be Human
How to Be Human
38 Subscribers
Reviews
4.7 out of 5 stars
4.7 Based on 24 reviews
haikeyyyy
5 out of 5 stars
a truly amazing podcast
💖
Bioko73541124
5 out of 5 stars
Best podcast ever
Love these ladies!!! 🎉
ATonetta
5 out of 5 stars
Love Love LOVE!
A truly delightful podcast that speaks to my soul on every topic of humanness. The chemistry between these two is so organic and easy, I can’t wait for each new episode. I’m here for all the laughs and words of wisdom. If you need me, I’ll be bingeing How to Be Human pod.
newmanem
5 out of 5 stars
Empathetic, insightful, and much needed
As a listener of How to Be Human, this review was a long time coming. This podcast is one that will make you feel seen. You’ll leave listening with the knowledge that you’re not alone in this crazy life we’ve all been thrown into. I love that Nina and Anna dive deep into topics with distinction and perspectives that challenge what “being human” means to society, past and present. Not only are these women relatable and empathetic, they’re also approachable and authentic. Love this podcast!!
chinen wing
5 out of 5 stars
Authentic
Gentle and grounded, insightful and honest. I love this podcast and the additional integration of spirituality, meditation and movement that the membership offers.
amynorad
5 out of 5 stars
Boundaries and gratitude
Very thankful for the dialogue around boundaries and the feelings that surface while navigating the creation and offering of them. And down with the myth of the chill girl (or was it cool/easy going whatever)! Boundary talk is increasingly ubiquitous for good reason, and I found the podcast’s take full of useful takes on how to connect with yourself and others more sincerely /authentically. Thanks!
James Endrst
5 out of 5 stars
We should all talk with one another like this
Honest. Real. Highly entertaining and, most of all, truly helpful. The no-holds-barred back-and-forth between Nina and Anna allows the rest of us to open up our hearts and minds and look both inside ourselves and outside to the way we view others and just plain get through the often tough stuff of being human. Highly recommend.
muladhara2018
1 out of 5 stars
LOVE LOVE LOVE
Nina and Anna are fantastic guides and podcast hosts! I love how honest and thoughtful they are - they do a great job of building off of each other and sharing advice based on their experiences. I look forward to each new episode, knowing it will expand how I think and often make me laugh.
KelsBastin
5 out of 5 stars
Listen. Natural Banter and truly inspiring.
If you aren’t listening to this you are truly missing out. The natural banter between hosts is infectious. I grew up with one of them, and has been a best friend of mine for years. It’s insane to see her grow as a human and change so many lives including mine. Listen. You won’t be sorry.
lizelsy
5 out of 5 stars
LOVE
Love this podcast!
k.m.d.12
5 out of 5 stars
Heartfelt, honest, and so much fun
HTBH is such a gift! Nina and Anna’s conversations strike that rare combination of deeply felt, self-aware, and incredibly enjoyable. When a podcast can make me laugh in recognition and reflect on the complicated nature of being human, it’s a big win. Often times moving, often times hilarious, these two have something really special. The friendship episode is SO illuminating... I want more. If you’re a human with feelings and a desire to get to know yourself better, this podcast is for you.
Ffldmetrocommuter
5 out of 5 stars
I LOVE THIS POD
Self inquiry podcasts can often give good info via not so likeable hosts and this podcast is a respite from that. It is highly informative yet also chill and gentle, and honestly every time I listen I am in a way better mood. Listen to this podcast. It’s like eavesdropping on the coolest people in the coffeeshop
IllustriousPop
5 out of 5 stars
Feeding My Soul
This podcast is exactly the nourishment my soul needed. Nina
Holnizzle
5 out of 5 stars
The best thing you didn’t know you needed
Honestly, these 2 have the best relationship, the best dialogue and honesty that will blow you away. If you need a laugh, insight into being a human and existing here on earth, listen to this podcast! They are both gems and will change your life for the better (if you’re willing to do the work!).
@5ocheata
5 out of 5 stars
thoughtful, nourishing listen
Absolutely love the topics, honesty & insightful conversation. I appreciate how open Anna and Nina are. Thanks for sharing your magic with us!
JacquieR
5 out of 5 stars
The most amazing Humans in the world
I cannot say enough about these two amazing humans who have changed my life for the better! The fact that they are sharing their knowledge and love with even more People is a gift to the world! Not only listen to these amazing angels on earth share their podcast run and join Soul Unity - no better way to ground yourself with the most unique inspiring soul community!
GillianKF
5 out of 5 stars
Amazing humans helping us be human!
I am counting down the days to the official launch of this podcast! All the things we want to know but are too afraid to ask or explore. I love the idea of us all being human in our search for our best lives and I can’t wait to tune in and learn more about myself and each other, each month. We’re all just trying to do our best to figure it all out and now we’ll have an amazingly relatable resource to help us along the journey (with two amazing women at the helm). Class is in session!!
BijouLeBear
5 out of 5 stars
Funny and poignant!
Insightful, humorous and very touching. I love how Anna describes her connection to humans. She’s a dog and her brother and mother are cats. Her take on gossip and emphasis on thoughtfulness is helpful.
ChelsBels24
5 out of 5 stars
Obsessed already
I have the privilege of knowing Anna personally and it is a GIFT that she & Nina started this podcast. I love their perspective — it’s spiritual but still grounded in reality. How to be Human is perfect for people who love tarot but hate Goop. 10/10 so far!!!
bbkaplan
5 out of 5 stars
So excited !
First time, long time ! ( I’ve always wanted to say that..) I could listen to these 2 amazing magical humans all day long and now I get to in podcast form. Their chats are super insightful, organic, authentic, thoughtful, all the things and they will make you laugh from time to time bc that’s important too!
renipapa
5 out of 5 stars
Yes!
So excited for this!
dwarf cow
5 out of 5 stars
Can’t wait
Big fan looking forward to more!
LM1015
5 out of 5 stars
So excited this is now an official podcast
I started listening to How to be Human through The Soul Unity, and it was one of my favorite parts of that subscription. Nina and Anna offer up a dialogue around topics that are simply, so human, but that we never really discuss in our every day lives. Everything from how to say No without feeling guilty .. to .. what does a healthy, reciprocal friendship look like? It’s informative and funny, impactful, relatable and I can’t recommend it enough.
Mtchmasters
5 out of 5 stars
Awesome!!
I’m so excited for this! Love these two!
Podcast information
- Amount of episodes
- 59
- Subscribers
- 38
- Verified
- Yes
- Website
- Explicit content
- Yes
- Episode type
- episodic
- Podcast link
- https://podvine.com/link/..
- Last upload date
- January 24, 2023
- Last fetch date
- January 27, 2023 2:03 AM
- Upload range
- WEEKLY
- Author
- Anna Toonk
- Copyright
- 2021 How to Be Human
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- 58. Herbalism, Magic and Liz from Sister SpinsterThrilled for one of my favorite people to be on today's episode. Liz Migliorelli belongs to a lineage of bee maidens, apple romancers and herb cunning-folk. She is a clinical herbalist, animist and educator who roots her work in the stories and practices of her ancestors. She lives on unceded Munsee-Lenape-Esopus lands (also known as the Hudson River Valley in New York), at the foot of the Catskill Mountains where she tends to a big garden. Some of her favorite divination tools are beeswax, murky waters and chickens. Liz weaves together and facilitates classes on plant medicine, ancestral remembrance, earth rhythms, folk magic, hearth culture, poetry and social justice movements. You can learn more about her work at www.sisterspinster.net In this episode I ask her does magic help the mundane? How do you wade into the wild world of herbs? And lots more she graciously answers. Where to find us: Liz's Website Follow Liz on Instagram Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on Speakpipe How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Book a session with Anna0 comments0
- Ep. 57 Perfectionism with Katherine Morgan SchaflerHow many of you have been startled to find out you're a perfectionist? Raises my own hand. Even today's guest psychotherapist, and author of The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control: A Path to Peace and Power Katherine Morgan Schafler was when she discovered she had perfectionistic tendencies. Katherine joins me today to talk perfectionism! I have been talking about Katherine for multiple episodes so now you finally get to meet her and hear why I have been hyping her so hard. She explains the 5 different kinds of perfectionist personalities, why trying eradicate parts of yourself isn't the move and how joy and pleasure is the antidote to what ails a lot of us. I love her thoughts on how we often misunderstand presence and the myth of a balanced life wellness sells to women. She is so kind and smart I could talk to her for days and hope everyone benefits from her wise words whether on the pod or in her book. Where to find us: Get Katherine's book Take the quiz find out what kind of perfectionist you are Follow Katherine on Instagram Katherine's Website Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on Speakpipe How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Book a session with Anna0 comments0
- 56. Astrology with Vanessa HardyVanessa Hardy is back and she is sharing with us what Astrology of 2022 still might be significant for us, and tells us what lies ahead in Q1 of 2023. We cover some basic astrology terms (what's a conjunction? A transit) best practices and our mutual love of Anne Ortelee. Vanessa shares some themes to think on and places we can look in our own birth chart for what stories are playing out for us. Resources mentioned: Anne Ortelee's Weekly Weather report Mystic Medusa Where to find us: Vanessa's Instagram Book a session with Vanessa Subscribe to Vanessa's Substack Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on Speakpipe How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Book a session with Anna If you like the podcast please rate, review and subscribe. It truly means the world.0 comments0
- 2022 Lessons & 2023 IntentionsA little check in, a little recap and a little teary at the end to know it's the most tender part of the year. Endings and beginnings. What did I learn in 2022? How is that informing 2023? Do New Years resolutions work? I talk about why I set intentions instead. Resources mentioned: Take Kate Devine's Lyric Essay course Get to know Katherine, and pre-order her book. Melissa Febos' Work Love Jillian Turecki's work around self abandonment We the Urban Where to find me: Subscribe to the How to be Human Substack Leave a message on Speakpipe How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Book a session with Anna If you like the podcast please rate, review and subscribe. It truly means the world.0 comments0
- 54. Mindfulness, Meditation and MariI knew I liked Mari immediately when I met her. We met in Fariha Roisin's Writing with Vulnerability in Mind and as soon as Mari started talking I thought that woman knows some things. Turns out she really really does. Mari Orkenyi is a Contemplative Educator, Psychoanalyst Candidate and Writer. Her work lives in the space where Contemplative Practices, Buddhist Psychology and Psychoanalysis intersect. Mari holds a Masters in Arts, is Certified in Contemplative Psychotherapy and is Certified Meditation Teacher. She supports individuals, corporate teams and groups with Contemplative Practices guiding them on a journey of self awareness, exploration and integration. Mari has collaborated with Moca, The Marciano Foundation, Loom, Apple, DoorDash, LA Dance Project and more. As a native Brazilian immigrant with Hungarian roots, living in Los Angeles by way of Spain and Mexico, her multicultural perspectives and backgrounds are continuously informing her work. She's not just accomplished, and accredited she's an incredibly warm accessible person which feels like a tricky balance she pulls off effortlessly. Please enjoy our conversation on what mindfulness is and isn't, why Mari's approach feels radically permissive and why to meditate at all. Where to find us: Mari's Website Mari's Newsletter Mari's Instagram How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Book a session with Anna If you like the podcast please rate, review and subscribe. It truly means the world.0 comments0
- 53. Career Changes with Vanessa HardyAnna met casting agent, astrologer, and energy healer Vanessa Hardy at Maha Rose years ago and chats having an evolving career life with her in this episode. They initially connected over balancing careers in production and wellness but really it's a shared belief in self-knowledge being reflected in career decisions as well. Vanessa shares how awareness of an early ability to see what people were uniquely good at has shaped her career decisions and how she explores that gift. Vanessa also shares what it's been like to return to school as an adult and continue to show up for herself differently in her professional life. Where to find us: Vanessa's Instagram Book a session with Vanessa Subscribe to Vanessa's Substack How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Book a session with Anna If you like the podcast please rate, review and subscribe. It truly means the world.0 comments0
- 52. Deservedness with Kendra AustinContent creator, writer, model, and author of forthcoming The Realest Oracle deck Kendra Austin joins Anna today in conversation about deservedness. Anna and Kendra discuss the difficulty of defining an internal value that the outside world has a lot to say about and ways they've gone about it. Kendra shares how she's learned to investigate her motives for what she's seeking in her life how she to checks in around it. Kendra also shares how her story with deservedness has changed how she shows up in community. Where to find us: Kendra's Instagram Kendra's Substack Pre-Order The Realest Oracle Deck How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Book a session with Anna0 comments0
- 51. Molly Wizenberg Answers A LOT of QuestionsAnna re-read Molly’s book The Fixed Stars on her way to Italy and it hit deeper. A story of having the courage to transform your life out of a desire to be true to yourself. Swoon. Also tons of themes around love, sexuality, and figuring out what kind of life you want. For real read it. Thanks to this digital age, her wish to talk to Molly about the process of writing such an incredible book about your lived experience was able to be realized by sending a simple email. Writer, podcaster and lovely person Molly Wizenberg was gracious enough to say yes and join Anna for a lively conversation about trusting your memory, ways to write about your own life that don’t have to always be mining the sad memories and the commitment to forever seeking! Where to find us: Molly’s Instagram Molly’s Website Molly’s Substack Molly Podcast Spilled Milk How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Book a session with Anna0 comments0
- 50. Break Ups with Erica WeinerIn the wake of Nina’s departure from the pod Anna is exploring break ups today. Break ups, they suck but offer new beginnings with all of their confusing feelings. Anna shares some of the ones that have stuck with her and then chats with guest jewelry designer Erica Weiner about a break up that was equal parts dramatic and intuitive. What does that mean? Listen and find out! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Resources Mentioned: Maha Rose Agnes Pelton Therapy as per usual Sigh Swoon's How to Heal Heartbreak Get in Touch: How to Be Human Instagram How to be Human Substack Anna's Instagram Book a session with Anna Erica’s Website Erica’s Instagram0 comments0
- 49. Nina's Last EpisodeAnna and Nina have an important update for the show and discuss what it’s been like to get clarity about their priorities, especially when it comes to their careers. For Nina, she wants to be more present with her one-on-one clients, classes, and family, so she’s taking a step back from the podcast. Anna is going to continue as a solo host and is playing around with some ideas for the next iteration of How to Be Human, so stay tuned. Though it’s a bittersweet end of an era, Nina explains how she came to the conclusion that she can no longer show up for the HTBH community in the way that she wants to. She and Anna talk about what it’s like to grow out of decisions and reframe the idea of quitting. They also touch on how they communicated about Nina’s departure from the show and the peace that comes from accepting things for what they are instead of personalizing other people’s actions. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Finding alignment with your intentions and actions Allowing yourself to explore and expand The consequences of ignoring the energetics of a situation Practicing neutrality instead of trying to control, deny, or avoid feelings Unapologetically owning your happiness Ideas for the future of this show Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with Anna Book a session with Nina0 comments0
- 48. Lifestyles + HabitsYour habits create your life and determine your lifestyle. On today’s episode, Anna and Nina discuss why it’s crucial to cultivate habits that serve you and help you reach your goals. They dig into the science behind habits, how to figure out what type of structure works best for you, and the framework for creating positive habits. Where in your life have you enforced arbitrary rules for yourself that aren’t actually in alignment with how you want to live? In order to create new habits, we have to first understand what our current patterns are and where they come from. From there, we can start to explore what we want to accomplish during the day from a happiness standpoint instead of looking at everything through the lens of productivity. Anna and Nina talk about how they’ve learned to work with their natural lifestyle rhythms and create habits around that. They touch on how their morning and nighttime routines have changed since tuning out what society deems as acceptable and plugging into what helps them thrive. Plus, they talk about ways to effectively break habits and replace them with new ones. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Giving yourself permission to live the lifestyle that you desire The four parts of a habit loop What intuitive eating is and the benefits of practicing it Examples of building habits slowly and sustainably The profound effect of saying your goals and affirmations out loud Giving yourself positive reinforcement when you create new habit channels Resources Mentioned: Atomic Habits by James Clear The Science of Habit The Four Tendencies Quiz Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with Anna0 comments0
- 47. Anna + Nina Check inAnna and Nina are taking time to unpack some things that they’ve been working through, particularly in their friendships and careers. They discuss their recent experiences of feeling left out and reflect on relationships that fell apart when they asked the other person to take responsibility for careless behavior. Nina has been feeling empowered in her sense of self and ability to let go of people who aren’t in alignment anymore, even if they’ve been in her life for a while. Anna admits that she has a harder time getting to that place and has been confronting her fear of loss and emotional hoarding since she got back from her month abroad. Both Anna and Nina are experiencing a sense of restlessness in their careers, and Anna announces that she’s going to be retiring from one-on-ones and readings in 2023. They talk about burnout in the Tarot industry and how they’re trying to find solutions that work for their businesses. Nina has also been focusing on creating an offering that blends her practical and mystical sides in an authentic and not-cheesy way. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Conditional relationships and feeling discarded Why you don’t have to be digestible to be interesting Being aware of where you’re settling and selling yourself short The importance of validation in friendships Finding clarity around the next chapter of your career Resources Mentioned: Stay Sexy & Don't Get Murdered: The Definitive How-To Guide by Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark Get in Touch: How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with Anna Book a session with Nina0 comments0
- 46. IdentityWho am I? What am I? What is my purpose? These are the kinds of questions that Nina and Anna’s clients often come to them with. So many of us get caught up in our own conditioning and other people’s identities that it becomes difficult to decipher who we really are. On today’s episode, Anna and Nina discuss their thoughts and experiences with personal and social identity. One of the greatest factors that muddles our relationship with identity is social media. Nina notes that there’s a huge business of selling an image and use of façade marketing, especially in the world of fitness influencers. Anna and Nina talk about the importance of allowing yourself to experiment and honor what feels good without getting caught up in the ego or ideas of who you should be. They also touch on the consequences of having a lack of coherent sense of identity. It usually results in a lack of compassion and acceptance of others, which creates an environment where people are afraid to affirm themselves and live freely. Anna and Nina round out their conversation by describing what they identify as and how that shapes their everyday lives. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: The struggles of working with different identities as a Tarot reader The obsession with being a social media star and selling an image Getting more comfortable with calling out people who create unsafe and exclusive environments The problem with choosing your identity instead of internalizing your own values Discovering one’s personal potential Resources Mentioned: Y Studios - What Factors Really Influence Identity? The New Yorker - How Social Media Shapes Our Identity By Nausicaa Renner Psychology Today - Basics of Identity Sounds Like a Cult Podcast Rachel Cargle Ericka Hart Get in Touch: How to Be Human0 comments0
- 45. Art & CreativityThe spectrum of art and creativity reaches every corner of our lives. The music that we listen to, the shows that we watch, and the way we decorate our spaces are all forms of artistic expression. So, why is there so much pressure to abandon your creative side and return to ‘the real world’? There’s often an immense push to grow out of creativity in order to make money. Anna and Nina challenge the idea that if you choose a creative career or lifestyle that you're destined to struggle financially. Nina explores how this concept has shown up in her marriage, as Huê is a working artist. She emphasizes how important it is to honor what’s going to help you show up as a full person. Anna and Nina also dig into their experiences with fine art. They talk about the expectation that exists to feel or react a certain way to fine art. They also talk about gatekeeping in the industry and where that might come from. Plus, they touch on why it’s important to protect the sacredness of sharing your art and emotions with others, especially online. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: The relationship between art, creativity, and Tarot Discovering healthy ways to access and express emotions Understanding that everything you create doesn’t have to be monetized and marketed Allowing yourself to be a beginner The discipline, vulnerability, and work ethic that’s required of artists Recognizing that once you share your work with the world, it isn't just yours anymore Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with Anna Book a session with Nina0 comments0
- 44. Autumn FourkillerMost children dream of being an astronaut or a princess when they grow up, but Autumn Fourkiller wanted to be a brain in a glass jar. Two decades later, the Indigenous writer doesn’t feel too far off from that career trajectory, but instead of floating on display, she showcases her experiences and thoughts in her newsletter, short stories, and upcoming novel. Anna and Nina sit down with Autumn to discuss dream interpretation, ritual ceremony, and processing grief through writing. Autumn illustrates how her Southern Baptist upbringing initially informed her spiritual journey and how her relationship with death has changed throughout her life. She opens up the dynamic she had with her estranged father and what it’s like to live and work from his house now that he’s passed away. Anna, Nina, and Autumn touch on the role of identity-defining relationships, particularly through the lens of teenage love and intimacy. They also dig into what cultural appreciation and knowledge looks like and compare that to harmful cultural appropriation. At the end of their conversation, Anna pulls a card for Autumn and they talk about what’s in her best interest right now. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Autumn’s experience with storytelling and dream interpretation throughout her life What it’s like to identify with parts of your parents, especially after they’ve died Trusting the lessons that life teaches you Non-performative embodiment practices Discovering what you want to do with your magic Resources Mentioned: Life and Death in Strawberry Land Connect with Autumn: Autumn's Website Autumn's Instagram Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with Anna0 comments0
- 43. AttachmentPerhaps the only silver lining of learning about your attachment style is realizing that it can be healed and repaired, or at least that’s how Anna sees it. On today’s episode, Nina and Anna unpack their results from the Attachment Style Quiz and discuss the current research behind how attachment styles are formed. They reflect on familial and biological factors that they believe have influenced their attachment styles and the work that they continue to do to become more secure individuals. There are four main attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure. They start to develop in utero, are put into place by 18 months old, and firmly developed by the age of four. Anna explores how her anxious attachment most likely came from experiencing emotional neglect as a child and not getting the comfort that she needed. She illustrates how this has affected her as an adult and how she’s working on cultivating safe connections. On the other end of the spectrum, Nina’s test result revealed that she has secure attachment. She admits that if she had answered the questions 10 years earlier, the results might’ve been different, but she’s learned to openly express her emotions and depend on her husband. She shares her perspective on attachment styles as a mother and ways that she sees it showing up in her four-year-old son. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Psychologist John Bowlby‘s work on attachment theory How your early relationship with your caregivers influences how you build relationships as an adult Looking at the relationship between intergenerational trauma and attachment styles When the workload of motherhood starts to overshadow the emotional and physical needs of a child The body and intuition component of attachment styles Resources Mentioned: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson Get in...0 comments0
- 42. BlameNobody likes to be blamed for anything, yet so many of us are quick to dump responsibility on someone else or shift away from accountability. It makes it hard to learn from mistakes and see opportunities for empathy. So if no one likes being on the receiving end, why do we do it? Anna and Nina explore why people resort to blame and how it often comes from being scolded for errors or misunderstandings. In their experience, the constant reach for perfection can cloud your judgment and make you second guess your intuition. Anna and Nina discuss how the blame cycle showed up in their professional lives and the lessons they learned from working in environments where blaming was the norm. Nina digs into how her relationship with blame has changed a lot over the years and how she’s learned how to flip the narrative and take ownership over her life. A lot of that is due to practicing sitting in discomfort and embracing emotions head-on. Anna and Nina also share examples from their personal lives where they’ve been blamed or done the blaming, and what they’ve taken away from those situations. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: The relationship between shame and blame Where compassion ends and accountability begins Developing coping skills and upholding professional boundaries The difference between confidence and experience Finding ways to tolerate and move through discomfort Resources Mentioned: Dr. Brené Brown on Blame Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with Anna Book a session with Nina0 comments0
- 41. AngerAnger is often seen as a volatile, intense reaction, but it’s crucial to let yourself feel the full range of emotions. Unfortunately, women are held to a different standard when it comes to expressing anger and are often made to feel like their experience is invalid. On today’s episode, Anna and Nina discuss their relationship with anger and how they work to channel that energy into a positive, actionable behavior. As a collective, we’ve become so desensitized to men’s anger and have thousands of ways to deflect women’s anger. Even when a woman feels impassioned about something, she’s labeled as ‘dramatic’ (or worse), and told to just chill. Nina notes that if a woman expresses her anger in a professional environment, she’ll be put in a dangerous situation. As a result, women usually mask their emotions until something tips them over the edge. So when does anger become a problem? Anna and Nina chat about how they practice sitting with anger and finding ways to process their emotions. They also touch on the possibility of anger as a secondary emotion一it makes feel like we're doing something, but it can sometimes hold us back from addressing what we’re actually feeling. Listen in to hear Anna and Nina’s conversation about embracing anger and finding the lessons in it. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: What it feels like to be gaslit about your anger Growing up with parents who had a temper Rethinking frustration, irritation, and annoyance as unprocessed rage The biological response behind anger Deciphering collective versus personal anger Validating and moving through your emotions Resources Mentioned: @notquitebeyonce Breaking Free from Good-Girl Conditioning with Robin Clark on Beyond Beauty Project: The Podcast Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a...0 comments0
- 40. Hope and PurposeAnna and Nina have realized that they tend to attract clients that want answers about their purpose in life, or are looking to generate hope around things that feel impossibly hard. So many of us go about seeking purpose backwards and struggle with feeling like we need to be good enough for our destiny, rather than accepting that purpose is neutral and exists in many containers. Anna and Nina discuss the expansiveness of purpose and how to look within in order to embody it. Nina also shares her message to any parents out there who struggle with finding purpose in their parenting and touches on the damaging nature of perfectionism, especially when it comes to raising children. Part of tapping into your purpose requires a sense of hope, but also a stripped down version of your expectations and an honest look at reality. Anna and Nina chat about how hope can sometimes feel like a delusion, but it’s important to not overindulge in your own angst and get bogged down by negativity. They bring up how they work on hopefulness with clients who are struggling with particularly tender difficulties, including infertility and heartbreak. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Why it’s important to remove all of the things that make us doubt our innate purpose The misconception that purpose is a single thing A reflection exercise for anyone who feels like they don’t know where to start looking for their purpose Having the courage to take action and learn from failure What it feels like to be out of sync with your desire Producing genuine hope and belief, not toxic positivity Resources Mentioned: The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with Anna Book a session with Nina0 comments0
- 39. Jealousy and CompetitionWe know that if we want to go far, we need to go together, and yet many of us struggle with feelings of jealousy, rivalry, and competition. Anna has a relatively healthy relationship with jealousy in that she can admit when she feels it, but she doesn't personalize it. Same goes for when other people are jealous of her一she’s become more aware of it, but simultaneously more open to understanding where their emotions stem from. When it comes to competition, though, Anna has noticed that she can lead herself astray because she was so focused on winning. Nina has a pretty similar experience with jealousy and competition. When those feelings come up, she tries to dig deeper on what she actually wants and how she can make it happen in her life. She and Anna agree that social media has completely changed the nature of competition. All of the sudden, we’re up against people who we don’t know, and so much of our brain space is consumed by people who don’t even know we exist. Listen in to hear Anna and Nina’s conversation unpacking the spectrum of jealousy and competition. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: How Anna and Nina work through feelings of jealousy and competition Learning to define and measure success for yourself The toxic nature of gossiping and shit-talking Confronting the fear of being perceived as too much, but also not enough The lack of celebration for uniqueness Recognizing when your desire to win takes over your current peace and happiness Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with Anna Book a session with Nina0 comments0
- 38. Learning LessonsApplying life lessons sounds so clear and easy, but actually embodying what you know and putting it into practice can be challenging. On today’s episode, Anna and Nina talk about some of the major things that they’ve had to learn the hard way, and what sort of lessons they’re currently working through. One of the most transformative lessons that Anna has learned is that she doesn't have to take everything so personally一sometimes things just happen. She’s also become a fan of approaching self-care with the 80/20 mindset and has realized the importance of keeping her tools and routines updated. Nina shares how she applies the lesson of not taking on other people’s emotions, especially in heated situations. She’s learned that when you match someone's energy, then you become it. When it comes to motherhood, she’s been demonstrating to her son that it's okay to take breaks and honor what your body is telling you. Anna and Nina discuss moments of young naivatee, including Anna realizing that you can be open to connecting with new people, but also have consideration for their feelings and vulnerability. Nina looks back on her trip to Tanzania and how that opened her eyes to ways that we make assumptions about other cultures, and also how much you can understand someone who has a very different lived experience than you. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Effectively managing your emotions through self-regulation Learning to treat yourself kindly and softly when you need it Finding the happy medium between not abandoning yourself, but also allowing yourself flexibility Dismantling the illusion of security that back-or-white thinking provides Working to address your internal biases Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with Anna Book a session with Nina0 comments0
- 37. TarotOn today’s episode, Anna and Nina do a deep dive on the origins of Tarot, explain their approach to reading, and address some of the common misconceptions about the practice. Traditionally, Tarot is a pack of 78 cards with five suits, but there have been endless variations since the original Italian Visconti-Sforza deck debuted around the year 1450. At its core, Tarot is used as a way to gain insight into one's life and tap into the past, present, and future. But, as Anna and Nina discuss in the episode, some practitioners deviate from that and engage in harmful or manipulative tactics. Anna and Nina share how they were first introduced to Tarot and what inspired them to pursue it further. They break down some of the key processes involved with reading, including keeping objectivity in check and honoring humility. They also touch on what Tarot has taught them about themselves, humanity, and the freedom of interpretation. Listen to hear more about Anna and Nina’s approach and experience with Tarot. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: A brief overview of the history of Tarot card reading How Tarot challenges the binary Anna and Nina’s perspectives on the role of Spirit in Tarot reading Mainstream fear and apprehension surrounding Tarot What concerns Anna and Nina about certain modern psychic trainings Success stories and challenges from client sessions The importance of defining and protecting your boundaries as a Tarot reader Advice for people who are thinking about getting a reading done or want to buy their first Tarot deck Resources Mentioned: Seventy-Eight Degrees of Wisdom: A Book of Tarot by Rachel Pollack Aeclectic Tarot Namaste Bookshop Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with...0 comments0
- 36. Love LanguagesExpressing and receiving love is something that seems universal, but communication styles, especially when it comes to romantic relationships, are highly individualized and nuanced. On today’s episode, Nina and Anna use Dr. Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages as a jumping off point to reflect on their current and previous partnerships and discuss how their perspectives on love and marriage have changed throughout the years. From Anna’s POV, Nina’s marriage seems effortless and intuitive. Nina describes how she and Huê have non-negotiables that they don’t need to talk about, but there have definitely been changes in their relationship after having a child. She illustrates her marriage as two vines that sometimes grow apart, but always grow together, which is something that Nina wants and isn’t willing to give up on. They emphasize how important it is to let go of the patriarchal message that a successful partnership requires major compromise, even at the cost of your identity. For so many people looking for love, it's hard to imagine something different than what they’ve always experienced. Anna expresses her desire for a partner who has a strong sense of self, but finds that hetero men are so often threatened by her strength and independence. Nina encourages her to hold out for someone who not only accepts Anna for who she fully is, but also lifts her up and enriches her life. Join Anna and Nina as they unpack how their love language styles have played a role in their approach to love, partnership, and marriage. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Nina and Anna’s thoughts on the concept of love languages and what their experience was like taking the quiz The importance of taking responsibility for letting your partner know what you need and want How Nina’s husband has demonstrated gentleness, sensitivity, and love Anna’s reflections on things that are holding her back from seeking and receiving love right now Examining internalized patriarchal and misogynist belief systems about marriage Resources Mentioned: Five Love Language Quiz Heartburn by Nora Ephron Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram0 comments0
- 35. ForgivenessForgiving others is a difficult emotional process. For Nina, it presents itself as anger; for Anna, it’s triggering. We all carry it with us and over time it can lead to physical ailments as much as burnout or resentment. Only you can give yourself closure and only you can do the work, however far back it may go. It’s not about the other person or the apology you most likely will not receive. It’s about giving yourself space to understand where your feelings originate and how you can best navigate the moment(s). You may find yourself where Anna did at Delphi, forgiving others means first, forgiving herself–and that’s even more difficult. Join Nina and Anna as they unpack the grievances they live with and the healing they’ve experienced in choosing to forgive those who have harmed them. Call back your energy and let’s do some “real-life meditation.” Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: What is forgiveness Forgiveness and the health benefits that come from it Repairing emotional fractures The feeling of total, full body forgiveness The difficulty in forgiving others and forgiving yourself Resources Mentioned: Delphi Healing Power of Forgiveness Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with Anna Book a session with Nina0 comments0
- 34. BurnoutWe live in a culture where burnout is the norm. Depression, aggression, and fear are all symptoms of burnout, and oftentimes these lead to physical symptoms–headaches, stomachaches, intestinal issues, etc. So what do you do when experiencing burnout? The secret is to do something. For some, it may be to acknowledge you’re in burnout and talk to someone about it. For others, it may be to go on a walk. The point is to do something different with your routine, maybe even find a different hobby. But Nina takes it one step further, what if you’re a parent in burnout? Join Nina & Anna on today’s episode as they describe what you may be going through with a roadmap to lead you in the right direction. Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Google Podcasts , Amazon Music , iHeartRadio , Stitcher , or on your favorite podcast platform Topics Covered: Parents in burnout Living in a culture that promotes burnout Ways to relieve burnout Emotional and physical symptoms of burnout Difference between burnout and depression Resources Mentioned: Career Burnout: Causes and Cures 13 Signs You’re Heading for Burnout Get in Touch: How to Be Human How to Be Human Instagram Anna's Instagram Nina's Instagram Book a session with Anna Book a session with Nina0 comments0
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