© Two Best Friends
Hooking up with my boyfriend’s best friend
I don't even know where to begin this. How to start this? What even to talk about and maybe I'll just start by telling you that I'm 21 and I go to college and that's about it. And right now I'm home from break. I have to sit in my childhood bedroom. And because I can't hang out with anybody because I don't bed and I think I'm going through a mid-life crisis because like, I'm starting this. Now, I don't know what this is for fine. I have my wine and I'm by myself so much better than that. I'll just sit here and drink my wine and just spill a few stories that probably don't need spelling and probably no one to hear about all the talk about my lovely lovely access. Okay, so obviously I'm 21, you have that many serious relationships like at all. I had one too. If you can't like a little
Hook up and college, which technically I don't because it was such bullshit. So we'll get into the one from high school, which is such a mess and it's so what's up, sweetie? This guy in high school right for 4 years off and on for years and he was a year older than me and I thought it was the shit. I mean obviously loved Em Right but no I got cheated on I think I want to say like 10 times. Sometimes that I do anyting know and my surprise know you literally cheated on me 10 times in life is like a cry and I'll be like, oh, it's okay, whatever.
And the last year before he was going off to college. I decided to hook up with his best friend and he was my best friend of the time to like, it was like the three of us. Like we're like a trio as you call it like me, him and the best friend and I hooked up with him like a few times. Not really. It wasn't for that. Joe said it was more just like okay like and then my boyfriend found out and that I sound like shit. Hit the fan, like Ashley hit the fan like it was so bad. I got called I think every name in the book, obviously under that and we didn't talk for like years and years. Like he left for college, he moved and I finished my senior year and then obviously went to college and feel like we didn't talk for like years. I don't even know how it ended up happening, but we started talking again.
Seems like friends. We've been friends ever since and here's the kicker. He now has a girlfriend has had a girlfriend for a very long time and we will talk on like the daily. Like we talk. Maybe once a month, you're in there. What kind of just like film to other in like, what's been happening in each other's lives. And so, obviously one night. I was drinking as one. I decided to call him because most of the time when we talked, one of us was strong. Like, that's just how it how it went and mind you, no feelings. Are there any more like, absolutely not like all them one night. None, other than his, if you can imagine the shock and Terror that flew through my body when he heard a girl's voice pick up the phone, like, I didn't even know what to say except to be sassy. Cuz when I'm drunk, like sometimes I can get like a little sassy and have a little bit of an attitude when I say A little it's usually a lot until she answers her phone and she's like, what do?
And I'm like, to talk to him obviously, like, why else would I be calling? And she's like, well, who is this? And why do you keep, I said my name obviously. Like, what the fuck like I was so rude. I don't like, remember a ton of like, actually what happened like through the conversation. All I know, is that the next morning I wake up? And I'm like, oh my God, like what the fuck did I do? What did I say? What do I do? Cuz I wake up obviously. On top of my bed. No blankets on top of me and my makeup salon. So I'm like, oh God. And as a girl, the first thing you do, after a night of drinking is check your call log, and I checked my call log, I was mortified because I will call everybody no matter what time it is in the night. If you're in my contacts, like I will call you. And if you don't answer I'll keep calling you like it's one of those little things. And so I don't text them. Of course. I'm like, fuck.
Maybe he forgets about it. I'm trying to forget about it and whatever a few days go past and I'm drinking again. And I go to check my Snapchat and I see that he on as me on Snapchat. So I'm like, oh fuck must have been bad. Then I go on Instagram blocked. Some more stories, like don't drunk call your ex or try to be friends with an ex. Honestly. I think like trying to be friends with exes just like it doesn't work out. You can't be friends with an act like it doesn't work out that way as much as I wish it would it doesn't also there's going to be a pattern Within These podcast. I think you'll pick up on a rather quickly and that's a lot of this shit happens when I drank and now I don't have a drinking problem. I'm doing fine. But a lot of my bad decisions are when I'm drunk and you'll realize that very very quickly because all of my stories pretty much start with
When I drink, or after I drink, just like this next one. Oh, my God. On the topic of excess, not even actually just like boys in general. So my first year of college, I went to this party and I see this guy and I'm like, oh my God, I want to start talking to him, like, he was so cute. And so, I obviously go up to him and we start talking and we get each other's like Snapchats. We talked for days and days, and days, like all day everyday, I hung out with him. I went over to his dorm and nothing. We haven't like, we didn't hook up like you play fortnite, and I would just sit there and I thought that was like the fucking best know. It wasn't. Now looking back at it. I'm like, okay. I got you away from that. I really like that cuz I was like, so used to, like such a d like, relationships that, like, when he was nice to me. I was like, oh my God, guys! Nice to me. And so I want to say like 2 months and I asked him to hang out and I'm like, do you want to hang out? Like, I'm not doing anything tonight. Like, you can come over, I can come over.
And he's like, no. Like I can, I'm busy. Like I have so much school work and I'm like, okay, like it's fine. Whatever guy, you should know that girls are literally FBI agents were so good at finding should out. So I'm sitting in my dorm and I'm like something doesn't feel right. Like what am I missing? So I'm honest social media and I'm like looking through a see that he has all these old post with this one girl. So I'm like, oh my God, like let's look at our her Instagram. Private thought she had a VSCO link. So I clicked that this going and it takes me to a VSCO and lo and behold it is photos on photos on photos of them to like together in bed. And let me repay acts like every pic. You could imagine a couple with Jake and obviously you can't tell him how I couldn't tell him how I found this out. So I was like, I can't do this anymore light. Is there another girl, like, just tell me if there is, but like, I'm done, but just tell me if there's another girl like.
Painting, making it very clear. That I know there's another girl and he kept saying no. No, like, I'm just so busy like double majorette bullshit. I knew. Damn. Well, there's another girl. Like I said all the pictures and the most recent photo on her VSCO was of that, the day I asked back out. So I was like, okay, this makes no sense. And that was the first. And when I'm drunk everything, my parents have taught me leaves. My brain runs away from me. So I said, yes, that was the start of Hell living. Hell, this guy was so shity to me. Again. It was so bad, but literally only invited me over at like 1 a.m. He didn't go to class. So then I didn't go to class into my freshman like year was so bad because I didn't go to class. I spent every night at his house drinking. That was very low point and then he was in a frat.
Hey, frat guys. Now, traumatized traumatized, nor do I ever want to do for a guy? Their personality is there for at while. I'm not in Greek life. So, maybe I'm like bias but, like Frat Boys Thrive off of telling people. What's Brethren. So weird. Like, it's a really weird dynamic, Greek life. It's just fucking weird. I don't got that. Thank God. I'm not in it. No shame to anyone who's in it, but I'm at. So I go to his frat party and then I see him like, leaving with this girl. So then I start crying and I'm like, oh my God, I'm like miserable and I leave. I'm in tears. He pretty much an set. Even though we were never. Like, I literally did not leave my bed for. I want to say, like a week, didn't go to classes and never got out of bed and eat like nothing. Did I leave him? No course not. I can't leave a cheater. Why would I leave? Someone who like is just mean to me, so I can whack. When I go to therapy,
Like I talked with us all like, what my therapist. Now, I'm just venting for like you guys to hear like my funny stories, even though this one's like not funny. I'll tell you a funny one. So I haven't started like I took a very long break after freshman year of just like literally not even wanted to speak to guys. So my best friend one night was like you should go on Tinder like going to endure. You'll love it and I didn't love it. I still don't love it. I'll Never Love It. I like hate small talk and I think it's just like when you're on like a dating site like Tinder or hinge your conversations are the same each time like it's painful. And so anyways last summer I decided, fuck it. I'll do it like might as well and so I did and I met this guy who started talking to this guy and it was fine. Like I didn't mind them.
She seemed really cool problem is is on Tinder. A lot of the guys don't include their height, which is like, come on. Like if you're not High, please put your height in. Like, I need to know cuz I'm tall in the last thing I want is to meet up with you and you be like 55 cuz I'm 59. And if I meet a guy who's shorter than me, sorry, if this is rude, not happening, not happening. So I take his picture. Like I screenshot, his one of his pictures on Tinder and this literally sounds crazy, but I saw it on Tik Tok, so it's not my fault. He was holding a solo cop. And if you seen The Tick Tock, you measure what they're holding and then you stack it next to them and you can calculate their height, whatever. So I can't really decide and he ended up getting like maybe an inch taller than me are like two inches taller than me, and I agreed to hang out with him and I invited him up to my lake house and as
I go to my lake house with my best friend and we're just kind of sitting in the kitchen waiting for him to come but he's like not texting me that he's here, but it's like been a while. And we have BB guns in our garage in the garage was open. And so without us knowing, he went into the garage, took one of the BB gun and ran around the house, started banging on the Windows holding up the God. And I knew that was a red flag. Like poop does speechless. Terrifying honest to God. It was so scary. Cuz at first, I mean, it looks like a real gone and then like, it kind of process of my eyes like, okay, like that's a BB gun still. Like, why did he do that? I don't know. And we bring it up all the time. Like, I always talk with my friend, like, thank God. I'm done with that. Cuz that was fucking weird. Talk about like this Tik tok's. That
Found, and it was like when your one-night stand doesn't leave until 4 p.m. The next day. That literally happened to me and that is why I don't like having people over at my house, because I want to be the one. Like, I'll never kick someone out. But like, if I'm at someone else's house, I can choose to leave, and that's so much better. And so that happen, the same guy who showed up with a gun came to my house. And first of all, weird, I was drinking, he wasn't drinking and at like midnight X likes pocket, like I want to go for a drive and I'm like, let's go to Chicago. Let's try to Chicago. It's an hour drive. Let's do it at midnight, and it was in the summer. So we took the Jeep and I take off the tops. We start driving, he starts driving and I pulled out my mouth. Okay. I pulled out my maps and I typed it in Chicago. I don't know why I wanted to go to Chicago. We want
Kind of and I swear to God, I put on my maps Chicago and we're driving and I'm like in my head like this is taking a really long time. Like we're on the highway for like longer than we should be in the hours. Keep passing by it's only 2 hours and we're just driving on the highway stops are off the Jeep. It kind of registered in my head after 2 hours. Like maybe you should check the directions in like where you are. And so I check my map and were in Rockford, Illinois, for those who, don't know, way where we are supposed to go south. Where wait West and by now, it's probably 3 in the morning. I tell him I'm like, you know, what? Like we're not headed to Chicago. Like we got to turn around and just like we went the wrong way, how to happen. I literally don't know. So he stopped in this random gas station. I didn't bring any shoes. So I'm verified and he's like, please go go.
Okay, I will so I run into this random sketchy gas station in the middle of nowhere at 3 in the morning. No shoes. And I go and fill up two cups of coffee in. At this point. It's freezing in the top is off. So it's literally ice cold and he's pissed cuz we're in the middle of nowhere. Right now in Rockford. We have to literally just turn around and go home and me being me. I fell asleep. I was like, fuck it. I'm not driving. Like I'll take a nap in the car. We get home at 7 in the morning to Titus and I like how it relates to that. Tik Tok was like the one night stand, staying till 4. We came home. We got home at 7 a.m. And we go up to my room. I'm like, I'm going to bed whatever fall asleep. We wake up at like 12, the kid doesn't leave until 6 p.m. He just sat in my room till 6 p.m. And I'm like I have things to do and I didn't want to be like, okay like you have to leave.
We just sat there until 6 p.m. And I was sober at that point and so I wanted like nothing to do with anything like him. I wanted nothing to do with them, but he wouldn't leave until was horrible. And that's why I think that if you are hooking up with a guy for the first few times, and are not comfortable telling someone to leave your house, or your bedroom, or your apartment, go to their place. Cuz then, at least, that way, you can be like, oh, I have to leave like and make up an excuse. If someone is like at your place kind of hard to like, I don't know if it's just me, but it's kind of hard to like tell someone to leave cuz I always feel like I'm being rude. Okay, I'm not going to lie for this being my first time I've ever done this. I think I did an okay job. I mean, I'm just sitting at my desk drinking wine and talking into a microphone. But I mean, I don't think it was terrible and little bonus information. You want to know what happened with my ex's? Best friend? Who I cheated on my
His best friend, we dated for a few months and now we're kind of friends kind of not friends, but he has a girlfriend. So I don't talk to him. I haven't talked to him in a while. But yeah, we will literally dated. I did my ex's best friend. So I cheated on him with that shity. But I mean, looking back on it. I would never do it again, don't do it. But am I 21 years? I haven't one way. I talked to Tom guys, good for me. Pat myself on the back for that one, but nothing more. And that's like a something anybody else. I can't get out of the talking stage like you. I hate that. I hate small dog, and I just hate talking. I don't love meeting people. And so maybe this is why I like, I like talking and doing this is cuz like no one knows who I am not saying my name, I'm not saying any name, but I like just being able to come and just like Raya cuz I'm short and sweet since my first one. So I think next time instead of talking about my relationships. I'll talk about my drunk story is cuz I feel I guess so.
My drunk stories are the best. Oh my God. I can't even believe that grout that my first boyfriend was so close with my family that my mom will still talk to him. My sister will be like you need to like Mary had like I love him like get back together with him and it's like no one's on my side. Like what the fuck do you throw it in there? But my family is in love with them him. My family is literally in love with him. So I cannot Escape it no matter how many years go by mind you this was in high school. So like 4 years ago and it still is like brought up to me and there is a time that we are out my family and I were out to dinner.
With this family meet, we met in the Bahamas and my mom starts pulling up our prom photos to talk about. Him is literally showing random people are prom photos because it's like she loves him so much. And I just had to come down just like sit there and be like, okay, like was so awkward and everybody still always asks about him.
But now I'm blocked so I can't even tell them anything because I have no idea what the fuck is going on. So I thought I'd throw that in there cuz I thought was funny and relevant.
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