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Hello. This week. We have letting go of unrealistic standards on Corona out. This podcast is about the troubles and problems related to related to mental health. Back of it has given us and is hosted written and produced and edited by me. Jennifer. If you are ever struggling in your life, you are welcome here and everyone can gather and make a struggling with life Club anyways. Today we have the topic of unrealistic standards. I think we all have unrealistic standards whether it's about other people or ourselves. This week will be dedicated to ourselves and I may possibly make an episode about other people in the future. But I am not quite sure yet. I will bet you $500, that you have at least one unrealistic standard about yourself. Actually change that to $0.05. Just in case. There's someone who doesn't now that I think about it. I think it's better. If I just don't.
Anything money-wise. So I'll be betting you my pride instead. Let's start with some of my unrealistic standards and then we will explore so much just like everyone's General humans unrealistic standards. For me, I think being sufficient at everything, I work hard on his one. I have a super growth mindset, so I'm always like okay, if I worked super hard on this, this will work out for me and obviously, you can't just work hard on some things and going to hundred percent doesn't work. Some things just take time and some other things are just hard or not at your level yet. So, yeah, that's one of mine. I also I've cried because of this, a lot when I do homework and I keep getting this problem. Alright, let's say it's Matt and I am doing something and I got it wrong again again and again it frustrates me. And I just yeah, I got very upset.
Or when I'm learning this New Concept and I can't get it when I'm trying to do anything and it just doesn't work out for me. And eventually it leaves too many tears, and red eyes. Let's look at a few websites. Now psychcentral has a couple of things to tell us first having these impossible standards is a part of Being Human. It's normal and it's something everyone goes through but obviously it's not necessarily good for you. This thing called healthy pressure actually does exist. I learned it from this one person who ended up going to jail, but the term healthy pressure is when the pressure helps you perform better.
I need the carrier, the key here is a changing your standards and your mindset, but obviously, that doesn't really work out because we're human if we wanted to thank some kind of way we probably would have. Except we can't for me. What I do is imagine the worst possible scenario that can happen and then you have to embrace that idea and pretend that what happened? And start preparing for that. I had this one time actually, I had a lot of times where I had prepared what I thought was sufficient, but it ended up in chaos. I'm more typical case. I think would be, oh yeah, there was this one time when I had a practice test for Taekwondo and I have practiced a lot like I'm time. Are you at practice every day at home? And I have like several our sessions in Taekwondo several times a week in addition to my normal training but I was doing this
I'm in front of everyone, I was training with and I just forgot it. I don't know why, but I just got stuck at the certain point and I was also the highest ranked person for my same degree people. So I wasn't supposed to mess up. I was supposed to be a good example. So I tried it again and again, and again and I come, I forgot every time. Thankfully, my teacher was nice enough, not to yell at me, but it was still super embarrassing. I mean, I've had worse stuff, so it's, all right. Anyways, after that, I think I literally trying super hard and all the possible ways. I could think of, I did the 4-mile closing, my eyes. I did it, and I did it like, turning around. I did everything and I was so, so ready for the possibility of bearing. You like I had to pretend I was destined for failure. Another time was when I went on a trip to Hawaii, I was actually going to go snorkeling.
But I hurt myself on the Rock unfortunately, at the beach and my knee was all bloody and it just wasn't that pretty. I ended up not being able to do much and we had to stay at the hotel a lot and I felt Superbad because we spent all that plane money and had all these things planned but not all of it happened. Not the best morale booster and ever since then I think I've always embraced the idea that something bad is going to happen. Like that go super paranoid of basically everything I go on a bike ride and I'm like, nope, I'm probably going to fall an accident or the tires going to like poppy cuz it gets stuck on a tree branch and because of this, you obviously shouldn't make a happy experience. Terrible or like not exciting at all, but you should just prepare and keep those things in the back of your mind.
Anyways, that was enough of my stories. I'll wait one more. I grew up and am growing up in an environment with unrealistic standards or just super high standards. Everyone expects me to be like intelligent polite and have my future all planned out. Going to go stand for a tour like to Berkeley and have like a time of my life. I'm not that type of person. I am the type of person that just goes with their gut, but usually tends to be wrong. So I don't have a solid plan because the plans I make come from my gut. So, they are usually wrong. Yeah. And you can't be pressured by all these things. I could just have to separate yourself this of myself. Nope. Different and it's not going to clash my life now, moving on to some real stuff on that internet.
First from one vibrant life, it says that you need to be aware of what those are first. I think those are just anything. That's basically impossible. There's a bunch of people saying nothing's impossible, right? I would say that's a lie but that's definitely not a straightforward. Truth is something is beyond what you can do. Buy a lot then it can be defined as impossible at least at that moment so know you know what's in the actual unrealistic expectation and what it's not I think next complimenting yourself after doing something whether you failed or not is helpful even if it's for us like you know how smiling actually helps your happiness boost and get better even if it's like Forest on your just pulling your mouth up because he feels so depressed and you don't know what else to do. It still helps you and this is kind of like that it true.
Your brain into thinking that you did a good job what you did, like just doing something and taking that step is doing a good job and nobody should be able to tell you. Otherwise, a lot of people also talked about other people having these expectations. I mean, this is everyone. We have people who love us and people who hate us, but they all expect something from us and it might not be good but they still expect us to be like, blah, blah blah and sometimes that they hope is just blah. It's just completely unrealistic. Like, for example, my piano teacher, I'm playing the best I can write like, why, what did I play like that? You like faster faster if I could play faster I would if I could play with more emotion I was. And those things used to get to me and I subscribed because of that, to be honest, that was how sensitive I was and I think I still am sensitive but I have figure it out how to step.
Great those things and take and not take them personally, everyone says don't take them personally but I personally think that's that's horrible advice. Like tell us how to do that because we obviously want to do that in front of me. What I would do is find a way to believe that. I have the upper hand in piano I can quit whenever I'm. All right, I can complain. I can spread bad rumors about my teachers or whatever. So if you believe that you are in control, it's a lot easier to blow these unrealistic standards away. Okay? I think that's enough for today. I don't really say anything that helped all from the internet, but I shared a few tips that I had to create myself to deal with unrealistic standards. Of course, those things for me, those things were for me. So I don't guarantee it to any
But I think it will help in this episode recovered letting go of unrealistic standards or just dealing with them. I hope it helps. And I follow this podcast on Instagram at Corona. Underscore out and at YouTube, at Corona out, there are links in the description. So please check them out. At least once. Thank you again, and see you next week.
